Day 37

So, today brought me some challenges. My boyfriend and I have been facing disagreements, as of lately. Which has been allowing me to focus on how to fight right with someone, which is one of my resolutions for February. There are several ways where arguments can cause even more trouble than what you two, or however many people are involved in the situation, worse than what the disagreement was.

For one, heated arguments make people say things they don’t mean. Although they shouldn’t use the argument as an excuse. But it does happen from time to time. When this happens, the person who was just called a bad name, may excuse themselves from the argument, and may take longer to heal from this argument.

One way to solve this situation, is to calmly let the person you are mad or in a disagreement know how you feel. Use “I feel” statements. Give them to time to process what you are feeling. You can bring to talk about the situation, or you can ever write a letter about what you are feeling. That way you will refrain yourself from saying something hurtful. The extra time it takes you to write a letter, the more time it will give you reflect on what you are currently fighting about.

When you have explained what and why you are feeling a certain, give the letter to the person you are having a disagreement with. Let them read and write up an apology and next steps to ensure the same thing doesn’t happen again.

Today, I will realize that there are several ways to end a conflict, while trying not to be rude to the person I am fighting with. May this disagreement bring us closer together by letting us see where things went wrong, so we can work together to repair it.

Thankful Thursdays #32 – February 4th, 2021

Each week, I like to think and appreciate what I am thankful for throughout the week. I encourage everyone to do the same. You don’t have to write it, or type it out, but it does help, but stop stopping whatever you are focusing on, you can take a pause to think about what you are thankful for during the week.

Here is my list.

  1. I am happy that my mom’s move went well. She is slowly starting to settle in her new place. I am happy for her.
  2. I am grateful that my mom bought me some lunch the other day, that was really nice of her.
  3. I have been slowly making time to jot some ideas down for my stories. I am really excited to start writing again. I have been brainstorming some cool ideas, so I am going to bring back Writing Wednesdays again! I normally write a short story, or a chapter of something I am working on.
  4. I am thankful for the continued love and support I am receiving from my all of my followers. Keep up with the amazing support. It makes me so happy that I can inspire so many people.
  5. I am glad that there were a few days where the weather was nice, which made it really enjoyable to go for a walk. I try to go out as often as I can.

Let me know what you are grateful for in the comments. 🙂

Day 25

I realized that I made a mistake when I was trying to discuss something with my boyfriend. I was upset and needed someone to talk about things. I became aware that I should have discussed it with him during dinner. I say that we should have talked about this earlier, since it isn’t a good idea to talk about stressful things in an hour before bed.

Discussing these things with my boyfriend before bed, didn’t really help me, because he became upset and stressed out, too. We didn’t really come up with any ideas to resolve this situation. So it had to wait until later to figure out a solution.

Today, if I can, I will not talk about stressful situations before going to bed, as it might interfere with actually falling asleep. Instead, I will try to write about my feelings in a journal, and I will discuss with someone who is involved in the situation, or someone who might be able to solve the situation until it is an appropriate time to discuss something stressful.

Thankful Thursday #30 – January 21st, 2021

I feel so honoured to be apart of the blog community. I love reading about people’s lives, success, and what they have learnt from their missteps. Even though we might hate to admit when things went wrong, but that’s where we learn the most things about ourselves.

I would love to read all of the things you are thankful for throughout the week. Here is my list.

  1. The motivation of wanting to write a story. Although finding the time, is another issue. I am thankful that I have the desire to write a story. I have been really wanting to get back into writing. Hopefully when my schedule becomes less busy, I can get back into writing again.
  2. I am thankful for the time I spent cleaning and tidying my room, so I am able to enjoy spending it in a clean environment.
  3. I am glad that I got to spend an extra day with my boyfriend, he took a day off throughout the week. We got to spend more time than we would have.
  4. I am grateful for being able to talk to my friends and family members via text messages since we live far away, and can’t travel to see each other.
  5. I am grateful that I am able to stay true to reading 30 minutes a day despite how busy some of my days have been.

Day 19

I couldn’t really sleep the night before, so I decided it’s best to do something productive with my time. At the same I was always doing something to fall asleep, as well. I began reading some of my book, that helped a bit, but it still wasn’t enough. I began writing in my journal, because I thought maybe I was feeling a bit too stressed out about things. I started thinking about some writing ideas. After I released my thoughts, I just laid there, trying not to think about anything for a couple of minutes.

That didn’t work, so I put on my favourite show, Grey’s Anatomy. That is my comfort show, I must have watched it a million times already. And that seemed to do the trick.

Whenever I can’t fall asleep, I will try to do something productive with my time, instead of just laying there, tossing and turning in my bed. If that doesn’t work, I will try to resort into watching a show, or a movie to help me fall asleep. Or vow to myself to make an evening routine.

Day Three

Every day I will be posting and talking about life lessons and daily affirmations. I cannot wait to share my wisdom with others. Even though I am still in 20’s, I still feel like I can provide people with some of the life lessons I have learned. I hope this blog universe becomes even more of a safe place to talk about our feelings, and experiences. Although I would never force anyone to share something that they aren’t comfortable with.

Because life is extremely short and unpredictable, we should learn to fill every day with something that we love doing. Bonus points if you do this activities with someone you love. Perhaps you enjoy drawing, or singing, or reading, or something totally different. By ensuring you spend time doing you love every day, even if it is just 15 minutes, you increase your chances of improving yourself from that goal. And I believe in that saying that it takes 10,000 hours to master something. Not only does spending your day doing something you love, add happiness in your life, you can also improve your skills.

And who knows, maybe partaking in this habit, you may realize that maybe this is something you would want to do as a full time job, or for a charitable cause. Sometimes our hobbies can become just more than hobbies.

We never know what type of obstacles life is going to throw our way, tomorrow or next week, so it becomes even more relevant to do the things that makes us happy. Which is always important to start your day or end your day with something you love doing.

Today, I will find the time to do something that I will add happiness throughout my day. No matter how busy or tiring my day may be, I will do something every day that excites me, and adds joy.

One Year Later…

A year ago, today, I was hit by a car walking to work. I haven’t even told many people in my family, I guess I just didn’t want them to worry about me. Not many of my family follows my blog, at least not yet anyway. I was extremely thankful and lucky that I didn’t die, or suffer any life threatening injuries from my accident. I only suffered bruises and a bit of swelling. Not even a broken bone. I think my Guardian Angel was my Great Aunt. I like to think that she was watching over me protecting me that day. I remember the last time, I had visited her, she called me her girl, and hugged me. I knew that I always held a special place in her heart.

If you would like to read the original story of my accident, although it may be a bit graphic for some readers. I tried my best not to be too graphic. You can read the original story here, https://threeyellowdaisies.ca/2020/05/29/second-chance/ The purpose of this post is to provide hope and wisdom to other people, and not so much of the story of the accident.

Now I spend my days trying to cram doing all the things that make me happy throughout my days, because we truly don’t know when our last day may be. I was able to start writing my blog again, five months after my accident. I first started this blog in May of 2015, and managed to write it for a year, and took a break, and nearly forgotten about it for four years. But here I am, back and better than ever. And here to stay.

I know that they are many people who lose their lives due to motor vehicle accidents every year. In Canada there were 1,922 people who died in 2018 from a motor vehicle traffic collision. (1) I am truly sorry for everyone who has lost a loved one from a car accident. My heart goes out to you all.

A year ago today, I am reminded that any one of us can die so suddenly, so let’s not waste a day, or even a second for holding a grudge, or hatred towards someone. Why waste a day, being anything, but happy? We should make every one of our days count for something. We should add joy and happiness in someone else’s day. The best part is that doesn’t take a lot of effort. When we make other people happy, it also makes us happy, too. It’s a win win situation. And sometimes people don’t get so lucky with having a second chance at life. So find something that makes you happy, and brings joy to your life. Life truly does go by pretty fast, faster than we think.

I hope everyone can use this tragedy as a reminder to go out and find your passion. Really start living your life. You don’t know what the future is going to bring you, so don’t let it pass you by.

A year later, I still feel pain from time to time in my right thigh where I got hit. I still get a bit anxious going out for a walk, especially at busy interactions, and busy roads. I have always been cautious crossing the street before my accident. And now, I’m even more cautious, if that’s even possible. I avoided having to do any obligations and errands for today, so I don’t have to go outside. It must sound a bit lame, but I just don’t have the strength to go out on the anniversary of my accident.

Getting hit by a car, really changed my life for the better. It gave me motivation to take over my life, again. I learned that I was too focused of living my life to other people’s standards, and not so much as to my standards. I was doing something that people wanted me to do. I even started studying accounting a few years ago, since people told me that I should be an accountant, because I was organized, had a good memory, and good with numbers. I learned that maybe, that’s what I’m not meant to do. And now I am slowly doing the things I want to do for myself. I found my true passions. In the fifth grade I wanted to be a writer, and right now I have been dedicating time to write. I want to add joy to people’s lives, by helping them see the good in themselves, and helping them realize that things do get better.

Throughout the year, other areas of my life have changed, my boyfriend and I no longer live with his family, but now we live with his friend and his family. I no longer work at that coffee shop. Not for reasons related to the accident. That’s just how life worked out for us. I couldn’t be more happy. I was working for someone else’s dreams, and not really have a lot of time to focus on my dreams, and what my passions are. Right now, I have been focusing on my blog, and writing some stories. That is what I am passionate about.

I see this day as a reminder to live my life, chase after my dreams, not try to appease what people want me to do, or they say to me when I’ve just been writing some ideas down. Even though the accident didn’t make much sense, like I always asked myself, why did that happen to me? Why did I lived? I really started questioning my purpose. I’m not working at the moment, but I have been using this time to work on what I am passionate about, which is writing. How thankful I am that I only ended up with bruises. Because I know, not everyone is as lucky. I am thankful that I still get to help others, and that I get to be here for my loved ones. The universe saw something greater in me, than I was capable of seeing in myself, and the universe didn’t want my story to end. This accident ignited a fire in me, that I should do something in my life. It reminds me to always find my purpose and happiness, and go in that direction, and not move backwards.

I hope that people can take away that their life doesn’t last forever, only their legacy does. It’s best not to waste your purpose by living someone else’s dreams. Go and chase your passion. Life is limited, so go out there and make something out of your life.

  1. https://tc.canada.ca/en/road-transportation/motor-vehicle-safety/canadian-motor-vehicle-traffic-collision-statistics-2018

December Goals

So I am pretty exciting for a new month, as it means new goals that I get to think of for myself. I have already thought of goals that I would try out this month.

My boyfriend and I are going to go to work towards spending less money on luxurious items, in order to save some, and put towards paying off more of our debts. Which will be really amazing. I am look forward to that.

I have already thought of an idea that I think would make for a good novel, perhaps. I know I’m a bit late, but every November, writers are encouraged to write a novel in those 30 days. I plan on doing that, but I plan on doing that in January since I was a bit busy in November. Then once I complete it, I am going to read it and edit it, so hopefully I’ll be able to share that with you sometime in February. They say the average book has about 50,000 words, so it works out to be 1,667 words a day. Especially you are just focusing on writing your idea, and then after that you spend time dedicating to the editing process.

I would like to make more trying new recipes, because that sounds like a lot of fun.

I am also working on ideas of how I can make 2021 the best year ever! More to come with that idea.

I will also keep on blogging daily, which is always a lot of fun. I can’t’ wait to find out what your December goals are.

November 2020 Reflections

I forgot yesterday was the last day of the month. With that being said, I forgot to write about what November has taught me. I have learnt a lot from November. I continued making reading a habit, which has helped me read some books from my To Be Read List.

I am currently decluttering and organizing my belongings. I am now very comfortable with removing items from my life. I used to have four containers of stuff from my old room stored at my sister’s house. I now only have one of them left to go through. Which I am planning on going through that next week.

I now focus on getting things done right away, instead of waiting a bit to get those errands done.

The importance of saving up money, instead of splurging on some kind of luxuries that I can live without.

I learned that if I prioritize on what is important, I can get a lot done. I have thought of a lot of cool ideas for upcoming stories.

Going for a walk is not only healthy, but important, too.

All in all, I feel quiet proud of what I have learned about myself in the past month. I can’t wait to see what happens to me next month.

Write in a Journal

In this edition of Feel Good Fridays, I’m hear to talk about the benefits of writing in a journal. If you aren’t much a writer, you can draw a picture, or just jot down some ideas and feelings.

This is a post where I try to encourage us to incorporate small ways to make healthy choices and feel good about ourselves even on what appears to the worst day ever.

Writing in a journal is so simple. It has the power to help calm our minds from racing. You can write out a to-do list, which helps you organize your tasks and shows you which ones to prioritize the important ones, and what needs to be done next. You can write about your goals, and how to make them come true. You can use it to keep your goals on track.

It helps reduce stress, while increasing your creativity as well. It’s your journal, so you can decorate it, however you see fits your style. You can decide when and how often you wish to write in it. You can write every day, or weekly. There are no rules, make your own.