I remember the days my sister and I used to go shopping every so often. Those days were always the best. I love spending time with my sister.
We haven’t been shopping in a long time, but that’s okay. I’m kind of done clothes shopping for myself. At least at the moment, because I am content with the majority of my clothes right now. Although I still have a couple of clothes I need to go through and donate.
This was a sweater my sister had bought me on one of these hang outs. When it still fit me, my arms and torso grew longer since then, but this used to be my favourite sweater ever. I loved how bright it was. At the time, pink was my favourite colour, but now I love yellow. Even though I don’t have a yellow sweater, but that’s okay.
Today marks week number 20! I am beyond proud of myself.
About two and a half years ago, I bought this sweater, and I wasn’t even looking for a sweater. I took the bus to the mall, and I saw my friend with her daughter. She was going to go home, but I told her I needed some help finding my bridesmaid dress. It was for my boyfriend’s brother’s wedding. So instead of her going home, her and I hung out for the day. Which was a lot of fun, since I haven’t seen her in such a long time.
My friend and I went looking in every store that sells clothes. At this time, I was obsessed with clothes, especially new and fancy/dressy clothes. So this was a real luxury for me.
Unfortunately I didn’t find my dress, but I was able to find all of these cool shirts, and this sweater. It was a really nice sweater, but I felt like it became too tight in the arms. I found it to be too uncomfortable.
It wasn’t until a few weeks later that I was able to find my bridesmaid dress, just in time for the wedding.
Because I was always cold all the time, my Grandparents would keep their eyes out for all of these different sweaters at garage sales, and church sales for me. It was nice, but most of the time it became overwhelming because I ended up having a lot of sweaters! And I mean a lot!
I have finally had time to go through all of my things, and found out that the majority of these sweaters no longer fit anymore. Although I am happy because I’m able to pass them back to her, so she can give them to her neighbours. It feels amazing knowing that I am helping someone.
I really appreciated my Grandma finding me all of these things for me. Between my older sister and my Grandma finding me and passing down all of these clothes, I rarely had to go shopping throughout my life. Which probably is why I became obsessed with shopping three years ago.
I feel proud of myself for being able to help others.
I love writing this post because I express my gratitude for the things that I am thankful for. I hope I encourage others to write about the things you are grateful for throughout the week. If you are pressed for time, at least think about the things you are happy for. I feel like it’s really important to express your gratitude and share it with others.
Here is my list…
Seeing my Grandparents for the first time since my birthday back in June (of this year). We had afternoon tea and we had dinner together. We had porkchops, with asparagus and oven roasted potatoes. It was delicious.
Since I was seeing my Grandma, I was able to pass along the clothes I no longer wanted or needed. It cleared up some space in my room. That’s always a good thing.
I’m grateful that all of my clothes are going to help someone. She also told me that she was going to give them to her friend’s granddaughter. That’s always nice. I’m really glad.
I got a book to borrow a book from my Grandma, which is on my To Be Read List. My books are available at the library, so I’m really excited to pick them up, and start reading them.
My boyfriend and I went to a store and bought more tea over the weekend.
I feel really bad for keeping things for so long that I have not used. Before covid-19 my Grandparents went to a lot of church sales, and garage sales, so she would buy a whole bunch of books and clothes that I would like. This explains why I used to have a lot of things. Plus three years I loved going clothes shopping.
Now I am finally starting to go through my possessions. I feel bad for holding on to this for so long. I feel that someone else could have enjoyed wearing this, instead of it being stashed away in a container for several years.
It’s a cute sweater, but it’s too small for me now.
But now I am freeing myself from this item, and I am super happy about it.
In case, you are a big spender, perhaps this is a tip for you!
I suggest having a month where you don’t spend money on any non-essential items. Perhaps you can have three months throughout the year where you partake in your shopping bans. If you are a beginner, I would suggest that you spread them out by having throughout the year.
Whenever you see something like a new dress, or a perfume, or new makeup, or take out, or whatever sparks your eye. Write down the item and the price in a notebook, or in a document either on your phone or computer. At the end of your shopping ban, calculate how much money you would have spent. The point is you would see how much you would have spent, if it wasn’t for this shopping spree.
You should be proud of how much money you have saved. And this not only helps with getting ahead of your finances, but you are also bringing in less new items in your house, too. And that’s a good thing.
I can’t believe that I have been decluttering for seven weeks now, it is such an amazing feeling to have less stuff. At first I wasn’t sure how I would feel about living with less. It has been a project for the past six years now. I feel quite proud of myself, and I hope this is the last year where I have to purge my own things. I haven’t really bought many new things, aside from tea. Tea and tea mugs will always be my weakness, but collecting tea mugs is something that brings me so much joy. I love having a variety of mugs.
I allow myself to have a collection of mugs because it adds joy to my life. To me, being a minimalist, it isn’t about only having 15 items in your life, it’s about only keeping things that add joy in your life. It’s also about being comfortable with living within your means, and you aren’t going on massive shopping sprees on the newest designs. Especially if those purchases are making you go into debts.
Over the weekend, my boyfriend and myself finished using my favourite candle. It’s called Champagne Toast, it smells amazing.
Digital Declutter: I’m still purging through photos on my photos. I have too many photos and definitely need to spend more time sorting through them.
Every Thursday, I like to reflect on what I am most thankful for during the week.
I am thankful for my sister calling me the other night. We haven’t seen each other much since the whole pandemic. So being able to hear her voice was really nice. We got to see each other last Thursday so that was a lot of fun.
I am so happy that sports are back. I really have been enjoying my time watching them. My favourite sport to watch is hockey. There are about five, six games on throughout the day.
Since I am still in the early stages of decluttering (for once and for all), I have told my boyfriend that our coffee table and night tables are clutter free zones. I have been discovering that my boyfriend would dump his stuff there instead of dealing with any of it. But I still love him.
I am thankful for my walk yesterday where I was able to read my book and started writing in my journal outside under a tree. It was a nice change of scenery that realigned my focus and inspiration again.
Finally, I am thankful for the weight of all of my items that I have given away. I feel really proud of myself. The longer you hold on something that no longer brings you joy, the weight becomes even more heavy. It’s just better to cut the ties with these items. I am also grateful that I have no desire to shop for new things anymore. I used to be a big shopper a few years ago, and now I have no desire to go out clothes shopping. Although, the things I have bought for myself, were blouses, and skirts which I wear where I need to dress up. I also would like to be an accountant, but now the offices are starting to get phased out, from everyone working from home. I feel like that might become the new thing now. But I do love dressing up, so it’s not like those clothes were a total waste. It actually made me realize that I did have a lot of clothes. It gave me that extra motivation to depart with things I no longer wear anymore. Once you let all of the weight go, the more freeing it becomes.
What are some the things that you are grateful for this week?
So today was the first time I went grocery shopping by myself during this whole pandemic. I mean, I have gone grocery shopping on my own before. But going alone by yourself in the middle of pandemic, just feels a bit more scary.
I live within walking distance of a grocery store. What made it intense was trying to open those produce bags, without licking your fingers. But I ended up using my hand sanitizer as a added moisturizer.
My grocery store is fairly well with having arrows, and signs that let you know how where to stand, while remaining two feet apart.
It took some getting used to at first. Especially since I have only been at this grocery store a few times since I have relocated to a new house a few months ago.
It was okay. I wore my mask, I had my hand sanitizer in my clutch. I always was anxious leaving a purse in my buggy before covid-19, so I always carried my clutch since it’s an over body bag. It’s not too big, but it carries my cards, my sanitizer, a pen, and my keys.
The hardest part of it all, was packing everything in a bag, because the cashier can only have two customers bag their groceries at once. I hate making others wait, so nothing was packed strategically at all. Which made the walk back home, really difficult.
I’m trying my hardest to carry all six bags back home. I was struggling, and I thought I was going to be able to manage this, alas, I couldn’t. I had to keep putting these bags on the ground and take a breather after every few houses. I had realized that one of my bags had teared up, luckily I didn’t leave a trail of food in my tracks. My arms and hands were so sore from carrying all of this. I sent a text message to my roommate and hoping that he wasn’t busy. So he came and helped me carry everything back.
And when I came in, because all of those bags touched the ground, I just threw them in the garbage bin. I sometimes use them as garbage bags for the bathroom garbage bins.
All in all, things weren’t as scary as I thought. I just have to follow the rules and signs, and I’ll be okay.
I am starting to feel the joy with slowly getting rid of things that no longer add any joy in my life. It is very freeing.
Although one of the saddest realization is that these items used to be money, and I spent on things that I thought would make me happy. But now that I am getting rid of them, I realized that in the end I wasn’t happy with that purchase. These things could have bought me a weekend getaway with my boyfriend. I learned that we don’t just spend things with money, but the hours of our lives. Before I buy something, I ask myself is this item really worth an x number of hours of life? If not, I don’t buy it. If it is, I ponder it over. I must not make any impulsive decisions about my spending habits.
Now that I am slowly removing the things that no longer sparks joy for me. I am starting to realize that I never want to go shopping for new clothes, at least not for a long time. I am happy just owning things that make me happy. I don’t have chase the “next best thing”. I don’t mind that I don’t have the latest phone, or the latest purse, or shoes, or anything else. I am happy with my “old and boring” brands of things.
I am starting to be more happy with everything I own. It helps me keep my house clean. Learning to be less, makes things less stressful, and easier to clean.
If you are starting your journey, feel free to share your journey in the comments below.