Day 45

I hope everyone had an enjoyable Valentine’s Day. I had a decent day, despite the fight before Valentine’s Day. Things got better between my boyfriend and I.

It’s important that we continue to show each other love and respect, not just because a holiday tells us to, but because that is what we feel in our hearts. Remember to show love to those that we care about the most. Some ways that we can demonstrate our love to others is by writing a letter, making dinner, reading that person a story, telling them a joke. There are so many ways where you don’t have to spend money to show your appreciation to others. It’s also part of my February resolutions of my Happiness Project, to show and give tokens of love.

Let’s not wait around for a holiday to tell each other how much we adore them. We can do that any day, and we don’t have to spend a fortune either.

Today, I will make a promise to express love and appreciation to the ones I love, no matter what. It doesn’t have to be some extravagant expensive gesture either.

Day 37

So, today brought me some challenges. My boyfriend and I have been facing disagreements, as of lately. Which has been allowing me to focus on how to fight right with someone, which is one of my resolutions for February. There are several ways where arguments can cause even more trouble than what you two, or however many people are involved in the situation, worse than what the disagreement was.

For one, heated arguments make people say things they don’t mean. Although they shouldn’t use the argument as an excuse. But it does happen from time to time. When this happens, the person who was just called a bad name, may excuse themselves from the argument, and may take longer to heal from this argument.

One way to solve this situation, is to calmly let the person you are mad or in a disagreement know how you feel. Use “I feel” statements. Give them to time to process what you are feeling. You can bring to talk about the situation, or you can ever write a letter about what you are feeling. That way you will refrain yourself from saying something hurtful. The extra time it takes you to write a letter, the more time it will give you reflect on what you are currently fighting about.

When you have explained what and why you are feeling a certain, give the letter to the person you are having a disagreement with. Let them read and write up an apology and next steps to ensure the same thing doesn’t happen again.

Today, I will realize that there are several ways to end a conflict, while trying not to be rude to the person I am fighting with. May this disagreement bring us closer together by letting us see where things went wrong, so we can work together to repair it.

February Resolutions 2021

As part of My Happiness Project, each month I focus on different aspects and areas of my live. This is about my journey of how I incorporate new habits, and thought process into every day. For February, I had decided to focus on love, and relationships, not just with my boyfriend, but with other relationships as well. On the first day of every month, I will discuss my goals, and resolutions, and how I will be making these changes. Then on the last day of the month, I will talk about how I made these changes, and to discuss on how these habits helped me experience more happiness.

My Resolutions

  1. Fight Right
  2. Give tokens of love
  3. Kiss each other good night, and good morning
  4. Give compliments to partner

Fight Right

This one is about being able to come to a resolution, that doesn’t include name calling, or making fun of each other. There are various ways of being able to fight right without being hurtful to one another. I would explore other ways of fighting right in order to come to a conclusion. I would keep you posted on that later.

Give Tokens of Love

I will find ways to give tokens of my love to my boyfriend. I’m not encouraging or recommending that you spend a lot of money on this. But some ideas include writing a letter, or drawing a photo, or making him a cup of a tea, or have breakfast in bed, or other ways that doesn’t cost any money.

Kiss Each Other Good Night, and Good Morning

This one is important, because you never know when the last time you will see each other, so it’s important that you end your conversations, and departures on a good note. Which brings me to my next resolution…

Give Each Other Compliments

It’s important to let your partner know that you appreciate them. So it is recommended that you show them your appreciation by saying thank you, or that they did something that you liked. And telling them a compliment is always nice. Tell them they look nice, or that their cup of tea you made them was delicious, etc. It isn’t that hard to find compliments for your partner.

Conclusion

I have loved working on this project. I am excited for what this month is going to bring for me. If this has inspired you to make these kinds of changes in your life, I would love to hear about your journey, and your Happiness Project. Be sure to keep me updated either in the comments, or by tagging me in your posts. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Last Day of January

Despite that the first month of the year is coming to a close. It’s important to remind yourself that you even though you didn’t get to do all the things you had wished to do, it doesn’t mean that you won’t ever be able to accomplish your goals. Sometimes the roads to success is under construction, so you may have to take a detour to your goals, and that is okay, too. Or sometimes, you have to take another road, and then you come across one of my favourite words – serendipity. It means that you found something better than what you were looking in the first place.

But regardless of what you are going through right now, you will find your passion, and you will reach your goals. Just hold your head held high, because when you cry, or hold your head low, your tiara is falling. Keep on going, and never lose sight of your dreams.

January Resolutions Summary

For my new followers, who may not know about this, I have been working on my Happiness Project. I have become inspired by Gretchen Rubin’s book titled The Happiness Project. In case you haven’t heard about the book, it’s where she made monthly resolutions in order to improve herself and her lives. Each month she focused on a different aspect in her life. I sort of mimicked her style. In January she focused on ways she can boost her energy.

On the first of every month, I will write about my resolutions are, and why. And then on the last day of the month, I will write about my successes and my not so successful resolutions. It has been an exciting journey so far.

For more information about my own Happiness Project, feel free to click here;

https://threeyellowdaisies.ca/category/my-happiness-project/

This has been a bit of a difficult month for me, a lot of stresses, to be honest. But I think I was able to handle those stresses because I have been working on my Happiness Project. I dealt with helping my mom move, and she has a lot of things. Another thing that was stressful to me, at least, was babysitting my niece. I don’t have children, so the thought of having to watch someone else’s child(ren) gives me anxiety. But now that I have done it more times, I am getting used to it. But some days it’s hard because I have to say no to her, since she can’t climb on to the table.

My January resolutions were…

  1. Go to bed early
  2. Exercise more
  3. Organize
  4. Tackle a nagging task

I was able to do these resolutions, but for me the hardest one was going to bed late, mostly because my boyfriend likes to stay up late playing video games. So it is sometimes hard for me to go to bed when I like to. We live with other people, so we can’t really use the living room for his video game. So he has to play in our room, which is basically all we have to ourselves.

The easiest resolution that I was able to follow was organizing. I love organizing things, so it was easy for me to keep things organized, and get organized.

Tackling a nagging project is any projects that I need to get done, or should get should, but for whatever I keep putting off. I have brainstormed some ideas already, so I am able to do some of them when I have the time. I like to keep track of everything using a piece of paper, and when I accomplish a resolution, I put a red check mark beside all of the resolutions I have completed for the day.

I know that with as time goes by, I will find it easier to accomplish this in the upcoming weeks. I am starting to feel a bit more happier. Which is something I was hoping for. I can’t wait to be even more happier. I feel like these resolutions have been helpful, and I can’t wait to partake in the resolutions that I have made for myself in February. More to come about that tomorrow!

Day 31

It is okay if you weren’t able to accomplish all of your goals and resolutions throughout the month. It is not too late to not accomplish what you wanted to do with the year. Maybe you were just having a bad month, and didn’t have a lot of free time to work on your goals. But at the end of the day, it isn’t too late. There are some things that I didn’t have time to complete this month. And that’s really okay. This was just the first month of the new year, so there’s still time to make improvementd.

Let’s just try not to be too hard on ourselves. Instead let’s focus on what we have accomplished instead. We can focus on bettering on ourselves, and how we can improve our habits.

Today, I will not bring myself down, just because that I wasn’t able to achieve what I wanted myself to achieve. Instead I will use this as motivation to improve myself to work on my goals. I still have a lot of fun to work towards these goals.

WWW Wednesdays – January 20th, 2021

Let’s talk about books! This is a post where I discuss all the books that I have been reading, by answering the following questions…

  1. What have I finished reading?
  2. What am I currently reading?
  3. What will I read next?

1.What have I finished reading?

Although I had a busy week this week, I haven’t been able to finish reading much of anything. I have been making time to read, I just haven’t been able to finish any books this week. Hopefully this week coming, I am able to finish some books.

2. What am I currently reading?

Photo Credit: Google Books

I am about half way through this book, so far it is really good.

3. What will I read next?

Photo Credit: Goodreads

I am really excited to read this book.

Day 20

The sooner you get a handle on your finances, the easier and less stressful life will be. Money can either make life easier or harder. But it is something that can be worked on. I recommend making a budget, and keeping track of where you spend your money. In order to save money, you must not exceed what you make. I know sometimes that can be harder than it actually sounds. But it does take some time, but once you get a handle of it, life becomes less stressful, and more freeing.

When you make your budget, make sure you are including all of your expenses. Make sure you don’t forget about all of your subscriptions (YouTube, Spotify, Netflix, Prime Video, etc.). Use this time to reflect with what you can and can’t live without. Every dollar counts.

Today, I will not let another day go by, without working on my finances. I understand that the sooner I get a handle on my finances, the better my life will be. I will be able to have more freedom, and less stress. It may be challenging at first, but I know I can overcome these obstacles.

Day 16

I will learn to dedicate “no dumping zones” to help reduce clutter in my house. Let’s say for instance you love filling up your coffee table, or dining room table with mail, laundry, books, etc. to the point where it just keeps on collecting clutter, to the point the table cannot be used. Once you begin placing clutter on any surface, it begins to attract more clutter. It’s like a magnet.

When you vow to stop clutter from being placed on these spaces, then you might just start appreciating the beauty of simplicity. I love seeing a clear and clean coffee table. It truly is a lovely practice to start.

Since I have gotten rid of a lot of things throughout last year, it’s time to do a bit of rearranging and organizing. Toss, restore and organizing is part of my resolution for January. I am starting to feel quite proud of myself to do engage in this project. It has been really helpful.

Today, I will declare no dumping zones in my house. Instead of simply just dumping items on counter tops, or tables, I will learn to put things in their place.

Write Down Your Goals

Every Friday, I write ways we can try to boost our moods. These are fairly simple things to do like in the previous posts I suggest making a bed. It’s part of my Feel Good Fridays post. I love writing these posts as well.

I know that maybe people may have written resolutions for the year. Some of us may or may not have have given up on these resolutions already. Which it is okay if you have, there’s still time to spring back into action. But what if we try a different approach? What if we make a list of things that we want to do, or can achieve by the end of the year. We can make them as hard or as easy as we like, how much fun, or personal growth we would like to have for the year. You can write about anything your heart desires. We can write about 21 things we wish to accomplish this year.

This idea crossed my mind, but I finally put the idea to action when I see that Gretchen Rubin did this idea, too. Her and I have great ideas. Her idea for last year was 20 minutes of walking.

Perhaps one of them is reading a certain number of books, or pages. Or you can talk about writing a novel, or at least the first draft, or even just write about an idea. Or maybe you want to save up a certain amount of money. Or it could be to start a family, or move out. There are so many things that you can work towards. Never settle for less. And never doubt how truly great you are.

You don’t have to have all 21 ideas right now, but even if you spend some time thinking about what you would like to accomplish this year, than that would be great, too. There are still 350 days left of the year to accomplish whatever you like to accomplish.