Here is this week’s quote, this is to help you overcome anything that this week throws at you.
When you decide you want to change your life for the better, it might not come easy, at first. And that is okay. Healing is a process, and it doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to break old habits, and make new ones, better habits.
Whenever you find yourself “stuck”, and feeling like you are not much better than what you were two days ago, it’s okay to feel lost, or some cases dissatisfied. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Trust yourself, and your journey.
As much as I wish, I wish I could only see the good in the world, but unfortunately that isn’t the whole truth. I have seen the not so good parts of the world, too. I wish I haven’t.
Some people make foolish choices, people lie, others backstab people close to them. Lovers who find each other, only to realize their timing is off. People who miss opportunities.
Yes, people make mistakes all the time. That’s sometimes the only way we learn, is through trial and error.
It’s how you handle your mistakes that is important. How you heal the ones you hurt and how you fix things that are broken. These are all important things to consider and to think about. You should be having a conversation after an argument to discuss next steps, and what happens next.
I have allowed other people, who I thought were close to me, hurt me, more than once. I am too kind of a person to push someone away despite them hurting me.
“If someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time.”
One of Oprah’s life lesson she has learnt from Maya Angelou is that once someone shows you their “dark side”, you should know they are showing you how they truly are to you. What I like about this quote is that you can’t really blame the other person for hurting you, because they have already showed you who they are. Sometimes people want to see the good in others, but sometimes, it’s not always there. It’s not okay to allow someone to hurt you or disappoint you over, and over again. That isn’t healthy, that’s the definition of insanity. Insanity is allowing the same thing to happen again, and again, but expecting a different outcome to occur. When you think things will get better, by doing nothing, you are lying to yourself.
People fail to realize that sometimes their tongue acts like a double edged sword. Once they release their words, they sometimes say something hurtful to their loved ones. I say double edged sword, because sometimes, not all the times, does that person feel bad for saying those words. Unfortunately that isn’t always the case.
People lie to you from time to time, not even thinking about it. These people think they didn’t do anything wrong. They walk around thinking that you’re naive or oblivious, and not aware that you can see right through them, and you know that they are hiding something from you. But their logic is, that if they don’t mention anything to you, then it doesn’t exist. They think that they aren’t lying, despite withholding the truth from you, or continuing to feed you white lies.
“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”
I would rather be hurt with the truth once, instead of being sugarcoated, and have someone “protect” with a lie over, and over again.
I am not here to say mean stuff regarding other people, but it’s hurtful seeing people hurting the people they say they love. And I mean, they probably do, but you don’t go hurting the ones you love. That isn’t cool, nor acceptable at all.
“Don’t expect the person that hurt you to be the person who saves you.”
If someone has hurt you, and they never apologized for it, and they are no longer in your life. You just got to remove the feelings of hatred, or sadness from your heart. Those feelings are negative to have. Whenever you think of someone that has hurt you, forgive them, but don’t forget the lessons they have taught you. When you think of this person, send them forgiveness into the universe and good wishes to this person. Then let go with grace. Love can’t enter a heart that has hatred running through its veins.
“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.”
People should learn to treat other people better. They should do anything to see their loved ones happy, no matter what. The one who wipes away your tears, because you were crying from laughing too much, not because they made you sad. Someone who can’t wait to hear all about your day. Someone who makes you happy, someone who doesn’t like seeing you sad. Someone who wants you to succeed.
If you don’t have a person like this in your life, don’t feel sad, you’ll find this person. I like to think that everyone has a soulmate.
And for everyone who has had their heart broken, and never received an apology. I am so sorry that no one saw your value, but it’s their loss, because I’m sure whomever is reading this, is amazing.
Top Ten Tuesday was created by The Broke and the Bookish in June of 2010 and was moved to That Artsy Reader Girl in January of 2018. It was born of a love of lists, a love of books, and a desire to bring bookish friends together.
The rules are simple:Each Tuesday, Jana assigns a new topic. Create your own Top Ten list that fits that topic – putting your unique spin on it if you want.Everyone is welcome to join but please link back to The Artsy Reader Girl in your own Top Ten Tuesday post.
This week is Top Ten is Favourite Book Quotes (from books, or any bookish quote in general).
10. “A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. The man who never reads lives only one.” -George R. R. Martin
9. “Just when you think it can’t get any worse, it can. And just when you think it can’t get any better, it can.” -Nicholas Sparks, At First Sight
8. “Just remember that sometimes, the way you think about a person isn’t the way they actually are.” -Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
7. “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” -Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
6. “Sometimes you have to be apart from people you love, but that doesn’t make you love them any less. Sometimes you love them more.” -Nicholas Sparks, The Last Song
5. “I had diverged, digressed, wandered, and become wild.” -Cheryl Strayed, Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail
4. “You’re wishing too much, baby. You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone oughta be.” -Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
3. “So Matilda’s strong young mind contributed to grow, nurtured by the voices of all those authors who had sent their books out into the world like ships on the sea. These books gave Matilda a hopeful and comforting message: You are not alone.” -Roald Dahl, Matilda (1988)
2. “Dumdledore watched her fly away, and as her silvery glow faded he turned back to Snape, and his eyes were full of tears. “After all this time?” “Always,” said Snape.” -J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Dealthy Hallows (2007)
“And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.” -Roald Dahl, The Minpins (1991)
This one was a lot of fun! I love these ideas. I posted a lot of authors that has impacted in some way. My early childhood memories (and my mid 20s) is filled with Roald Dahl’s books and movies. As well as J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series and movies. My early high school days I read a lot of Nicholas Sparks books and watched a lot of movies. I enjoy the life lessons that are in each of his books. I was in grade 10 when I first read To Kill a Mockingbird. I still read that book from time to time. I have always loved Eat, Pray, Love and Wild. I enjoy the woman’s journey of finding themselves.
I enjoy reading and all of the things they have to offer the universe. I make it a habit to read everyday. 🙂
I love this quote because it is a reminder of that even though you may be going through challenging times right now, it doesn’t mean things will have to be that way forever. All you gotta do is change your perspective on the situations and just keep reminding yourself that things will get better.
Another one of my favourite photography quotes is;
“Life is like photography, you need the negatives to develop.”
Last week, I was talking to my second cousin, and she has had a lot on her plate as of lately. I am fortunate that I am someone that she trusts enough to talk about these things with. I am happy to say that I give her so much support and love. Although I wish we live closer, but I hope we can catch up again soon. I miss her so much.
She has been dealing with some family drama and disagreements, and let’s face who hasn’t? I love sharing my wisdom with others. I enjoy helping people. She often feels overwhelmed and that whatever she is doing, is not enough. I always remind her, that what she is thinking is totally false, she just needs to change her mindset.
“It’s only a thought… and a thought can be changed.”
We are grateful to have each other in our lives.
I’m sure they are many people out there that can relate to dealing with family drama, and having relationship problems. (Talking to my cousin about this, has inspired me to write about how to solve relationship problems and conflicts, more to come). Don’t feel bad for not having “the perfect family”, no one really does, no matter how difficult that is to admit.
She has been addressing unhappiness with her job, as well. It’s easy for her to hate the world, and feel defeated with everything. But that isn’t the case, I tell her every chance I get of how amazing she is.
For everyone out there who may be dealing with one or all of these situations, it might be easy to just give up and roll over. But don’t! Use all of these challenging times as stepping stones to build something better.
I told my cousin, that it’s okay to have to go through these battles. It is mostly about how you deal with these confusing times. It’s truly important that during these times, they are handled in a healthy way. Using addictive alternatives (such as alcohol, drugs, sex, etc.) to cope with these struggles, it only fixes things temporarily, they do NOT solve problems in the long term. Resorting to such dangerous coping mechanisms only numbs your pain. I have learned from close friends in my life, that numbing the pain for awhile, just hurts even more when you finally feel it.
My suggestions to help you cope with all of these feelings, is to build a support system, where you can talk to trusted people about with what is happening in your life. Or just having one person is helpful enough. And if you don’t have anyone you feel comfortable discussing this with, which is okay, by the way, then that brings me to my alternative solution.
Write in a journal, write about anything you want, let it flow onto the page. You don’t have to let anyone read it if you don’t want to. It can be just for your eyes only. I am one who never had many friends, so I had to learn to be my own best friend.
Another thing, I have told her that starting a new job can be scary and terrible, but so is staying at a lousy job. Your life is far too short to spend it being anything but happy. So I recommended that she looks for another job, but at the same be thankful that she still has a job.
Everyone experiences relationship problems, but we should see it as an opportunity to discuss things that you are not happy with, and begin to think of solutions. You have to go through a storm to get a rainbow.
On our lower days it’s easy to just stay in bed, not wanting to deal with the world. Been there, done that and didn’t get much done. But what is important is that we make the time to take care of ourselves. It’s the simple things that add so many benefits. It’s the little things like making your bed, brushing your teeth and hair. They all make you feel so much better. And by doing those things takes no more than 15 minutes, and you will feel so much better. When you make your bed, you get a sense of accomplishment, and it gets the ball rolling for you wanting to do something more, and more.
When you are constantly allowing yourself to drown in everyone else’s lives and thoughts, it’s easy to forget about your needs and wants. Learn to take some time for you every day, not just on your lower days. Learn to set aside 15 minutes of your day, just on you. Or a little longer, depending on how you feel. Take a long, hot shower, or a warm bath with Epsom salts, and whatever else you need to feel relax and unwind.
Practicing meditating and doing various yoga poses can also help you de-stress, too. There are so many more videos are YouTube to help you. Perhaps, you are more into the arts, so maybe drawing or painting, may benefit you more. You just got to follow your heart and decide what is going to bring you the most joy.
“”Anyone out there who’s in junior high, high school, working it out, suffering — There are days you’re going to feel sad, you’re going to feel angry, you’re going to feel scared, that’s nothing you can choose, but you can make stuff. Make films, draw, write, It will make a world of difference.”
-Pete Docter, Inside Out Director Academy Award Acceptance Speech
Everyone should think what they truly want to happen from all of these difficult times. Everything happens for a reason, and it takes a bad apple to appreciate a good apple. Because we are going through tough times, we all get to decide why these things are happening to us. We decide why the universe threw all of this at us. Think of what you want to happen next. Think of goals or skills you would like to accomplish. Be as specific as you can. From there you can write about small manageable goals that you do in order to achieve your big goal. Be sure to let your support team know when you have accomplished your small goals, so they can celebrate you!
What ever you may be going through today, always remember that you are going to make it. What’s important is that you continue to love yourself in the process. Never stop loving yourself, or you will lose yourself. And a world without you, is not a lovely world. The world needs you — exactly how you are. The genuine you, not the person you pretend to be. Always stay true to yourself. You are always enough, and you are always loved.
I am a huge believer that whatever you manifest into the universe, comes back to you. That’s why I always try to keep my thoughts positive. Whenever I think positively, positive things tend to come my way. And whenever I say the things that I don’t want to happen, they typically come true. But if you are able to use the same energy for something bad, you may as well put forth positive energy instead.
Think back to your last bad day, where you kept on thinking to yourself, “What else can happen?” or something along those lines, and the day just seems to keep on getting worse. That’s because you are sending out to the universe that you want bad things to keep on happening to you. It’s all a matter of changing your thoughts from negative to positive.
This is my vision board, that I keep by my bed, so it’s the last thing I see at night and the first thing I see in the morning. These are the ideal times to reflect on my goals and how I envision my future. I encourage everyone to have a vision board, because it really showcases what you truly want in the future.
Your vision board can entail anything from quotes, to pictures of your dream job, your dream house, a pet, anything you would like to have in the future.
For me, the outer cue cards are mostly quotes about being positive and being grateful. In the middle you can see a cut out of my hand that I traced to add more of a personal touch to my vision board, which features specific and personal goals.
I know this isn’t the best photo, but this was the only one I could capture without a shadow from my phone. Starting from the top left corner, and continuing to go right, then down, then left, then back up to the top.
“Girl, you already have what it takes!”
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
“Working hard is important, but there is something that matters even more, believing in yourself.”
“Never give up on a dream, just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”
“You are the author of your life, if you don’t like how it goes, write it differently.”
“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.” -Oprah Winfrey
“Wear gratitude like a cloak, and it will feed every corner of your life.” -Rumi
“Know your limits, then ignore them.”
“You are what you manifest.”
“The key is not to worry about being successful, but to instead work towards being significant – and the success will naturally flow.” -Oprah Winfrey
“If you want it, work for it!”
“Dream. Believe. Do. Repeat.”
“I am open to the flow of great abundance in all areas of my life.”
“The best is yet to come.”
“Be the energy you want to attract.”
“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times. If one only remembers to turn on the light.” LUMOS! -Dumbledore
For those who haven’t read Harry Potter, Lumos is a spell the students say so their wands can illuminate which allows them to see in the dark. Lumos stems from the Latin word lumens meaning light or lamp.
And I was a bit creative because there are five aspects of life such as, work, health, spiritual, learning and social. So I figured what better way to broadcast these five aspects of my life then by tracing of my own hand.
I). The pinkie finger is Work: Be my own boss. Meaning that I would love to be able to be a full time blogger and influencer. I would just rather work for myself, and achieve my goals, than having to work for someone else’s dreams. I would have a lot of freedom of making my schedule and keeping my profits. Having had this time off from work due to the coronavirus pandemic, it was an eye opener and it made me realize that having to work for someone else, isn’t what I want to do right now.
II). The ring finger is Health: Maintain a healthy lifestyle. I would be able to do this by ensuring that I exercise more and eat healthy whole foods. This one can be a challenge because I love chocolate and other sweets. I know that those are okay, in moderation, but sometimes, I just don’t understand moderation. LOL!
III). The middle finger is Learning: Always read and learn new languages. I’m sure there are other things I want to learn too. But I want to read all of the books on my bookshelves first, and they are a lot of books that need to be read. Right now I am learning French (again), as a refresher, although I have been able to remember a lot of words and phrases from high school. I always love learning new things.
IV). The index finger is Social: Make time for family and friends. I haven’t been able to hang out with my family and friends since the coronavirus lock down. I know that I will be able to hang out with them soon enough.
V). The thumb is Spiritual: Practice yoga and meditation, and always follow my heart. ❤ I believe that meditation heals and resets the soul. I feel like whenever you are stressed out, especially, meditation helps by sorting out and guides you with the answers to your problems. I love practicing yoga because it helps relaxes me as well, and it allows me to flexible and release stress. Practicing meditation and yoga helps me be mindful of my breathing and it provides me with enlightenment. Following my heart is always important to because not everyone understands my feelings, the only person that does, is me. At the end of the day, I must do what is best for me.
I hope seeing my vision board inspires you to think of some cool ideas for your own. I would love to see your future boards in the comments. And as always feedback and encouragement is appreciated.