We Run From Pain

“Something terrible happens, we blame ourselves, and we don’t want to feel it, so we run. We run from joy, too because we think we don’t deserve happiness. But it’s a package deal. There is no joy without pain.”

-Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy

For some of you who are new my blog, one of my favourite shows is Grey’s Anatomy. I can binge watch that show for days on end. In fact, I have countless times.

As of lately I have been feeling sad. In fact, I’ve been mostly sad these days. I’ve been trying my best to cheer myself up.

This was a quote that Meredith says to Teddy about how Teddy is always running from her pain. And that when happy things happen to her, she feels like she doesn’t deserve it. Which I can 100% relate to. This year has been unbearable and challenging at times. I feel like I have been running away from my problems. But that is a never ending race. We will never be able to run away from our problems. They will keep on reappearing in our lives until we learn we are needed to learn in the first place. The problem with feelings is they demand to be felt.

I keep on reminding myself that there will come a time that the pain I had to encounter is going to transfer into something so beautiful and joyous. We just got to keep on believing in ourselves and we’ll see it for ourselves. Our battles and problems will turn us into warriors, we just can’t let them ruin us, or bring us down. If we let our situations belittle us, may we continue to raise to the occasion. Like my Grandpa always said; “Time waits for no one.”.

We think we don’t deserve happiness or joy, but we actually do deserve it. We work so hard, and feel like there isn’t time to truly experience bliss. We are too busy to let these positive emotions in. But we should really be setting aside time for happiness.

When we feel pain, just know that joy is soon to follow. We just have to trust the universe.

Bruises

Every week, I like to write about a quote, too. I have always loved reading and becoming inspired with various quotes. I also like to write them down on cute note pad paper for my boyfriend. I like to place the note in his sweater pockets, or somewhere where he can find it.

I am trying to not let myself be defined by my failures. I try to look at everything as something that needed to happen, in order for the better things to happen to me. Everything in life is only temporary. So when things aren’t working for us, we know that things can only get better.

Blessings

Every week, I like to post about something inspirational and motivational. I hope this helps people achieve their goals.

I like to think that if we spend more time focusing and talking about our blessings, instead of our problems, then the universe will continue to bless us with more blessings, and things to be grateful for. If you continue to talk about what is wrong in your life, then the universe is just going to continue to bring you more hardships. Whatever you send out into the universe is going to come back to you, multiplied. Whatever you spend your most time talking about is going to come back to you, so you may as well talk about your blessings.

Empower

I am a bit behind, but I hope everyone had a great week, so far. Here is a weekly quote to close out the week.

We have the power to use our words to heal or hurt people, the choice is ours. Why don’t we do something inspiring to help others? We might not even know the magnitude of our words or actions have on other people. So in the world that can seem like an awful place, we should learn to love and appreciate others.

And more importantly we should also learn to empower ourselves. We need to learn that it is okay to let go of things, and sometimes people that no longer serve us, or add any joy in our lives. It’s okay to leave things behind. Not everything was meant to stay with us forever. The sooner we learn this, the more peaceful our lives will be.

Up! – Shania Twain

I love representing my Canadian girls! One of my favourite singers is Shania Twain. I remember my parents bought me a Shania Twain CD for Christmas. I was so happy! I love listening to her music. I remember begging my parents to play that CD in their car. So I thought it would be perfect to include her for Music Mondays.

The song that I picked for Shania Twain is Up!, it is about learning to remain positive after something bad has happened to you. Shania is telling us that things can only go up from here.

“When everything is goin’ wrong
Don’t worry, it won’t last for long
Yeah, it’s all gonna come around
Don’t go let it get you down
You gotta keep on holding on”

-Shania Twain, Up!

Last Day of January

Despite that the first month of the year is coming to a close. It’s important to remind yourself that you even though you didn’t get to do all the things you had wished to do, it doesn’t mean that you won’t ever be able to accomplish your goals. Sometimes the roads to success is under construction, so you may have to take a detour to your goals, and that is okay, too. Or sometimes, you have to take another road, and then you come across one of my favourite words – serendipity. It means that you found something better than what you were looking in the first place.

But regardless of what you are going through right now, you will find your passion, and you will reach your goals. Just hold your head held high, because when you cry, or hold your head low, your tiara is falling. Keep on going, and never lose sight of your dreams.

Day 26

The other night, my boyfriend and I were discussing something, and he could have handled it better. I get that it was a stressful topic. But just because something is stressful, it does not give someone a free pass to say something mean to the other person. When things get stressful, it is important to stay calm, and not to lash out by something you will regret the second you say it.

“Two things to remember in life”

Take care of your thoughts when you are alone, and take care of your words when you are with people.”

-Unknown

Learn to refrain from saying anything mean to another person just because you two are fighting or having a disagreement.

Photo Credit: Teach Junkie

Today, I will learn to carefully about my thoughts that I wish to share and contribute to the person I am talking to. I should learn that my tongue has the power to heal or the power to hurt someone. I should make sure that I speak only kind words. I should choose my words wisely, to ensure that I don’t hurt anyone in the process.

Day 23

Something that I have learnt from Gretchen Rubin, is that she talks about the importance of what we do every day, matters more than what we occasionally do.

“What you do every day matters more than what you do once in awhile”

-Gretchen Rubin

What I love about this quote is that she talks about how important our habits are. I believe how we spend our days matters. How we spend our days, can tell us if we have what it takes to make our goals a reality. Do we prioritize social media instead of spending time working on our goals?

Even if we only spend 10 minutes of working on our goals, we can have a bit accomplished, than nothing at all. Good habits of setting aside time every day, is what helps ensures you that we accomplish our goals.

Today, I will allow myself to spend time on what I truly want to achieve. I will understand that how I decide to use my time, will determine what habits I would like to have. And these habits will determine whether or not I have the ability to make my goals happen.

Your Message

I like to start the week off by sharing a positive quote to help us be more positive with ourselves, and whatever comes our way throughout the week.

I hope this quote helps others. I would like people to believe in themselves more. I dislike when I hear people who keep on saying they can’t do things, or they are scared to do something they know is the right thing to do.

We need to embrace ourselves, and trust our journey. Anything is possible. Just learn to not be so hard on yourself. Just go after your future.

Happy New Year!

Happy new year! I hope everyone is having an amazing start to the year so far.

What to expect from me, Three Yellow Daisies AKA Julianne? Well, I am keeping everything the same, but for right now I am not going to be holding off on my daily decluttering mission for the time being. Instead I am going to be focusing on My Happiness Project. It’s where each month I focus on making small changes in my life in order to bring in more joy and happiness into my life. This month’s theme is ways to boost my energy. Although there is a topic about possessions coming up shortly, so that is where I will continue my decluttering journey. More on this shortly.

You are all welcome to partake in either My Happiness Project, or Gretchen Rubin’s book called The Happiness Project, or if you like you can make your own. It’s totally up to you.

If any point, you feel inspired, feel free to let me know, or you can spread joy, by telling a friend, or a family member about how this blog has helped you. I would love and appreciate that.

Even though the majority of us aren’t able to travel to new places, it doesn’t mean that we have to stay where we are. We can embrace new places, whether it’s getting promoted at work, or going to school, or talking a walk in a new neighbourhood. Staying where we are, doesn’t mean anything bad. It just means we have to embrace what we have. No storm lasts forever. Remember that. Instead embrace new beginnings and new opportunities.

Here’s to new beginnings, and hopefully a lot of happiness.