Day 56

This lesson is from Thursday.

On Wednesday night, I went over to my mom’s for dinner. And she also invited her parents, too. We had a lovely time. I haven’t seen them in awhile with the whole lockdown and such. It was nice to share a meal with them. I helped my mom make the dinner, we had a roast beef, with corn and oven roasted potatoes. My mom and I hung out a bit before we had dinner. We went for a walk in her neighbourhood. That was fun.

It is important to spend time with family. As we’re growing up, and having fun, it’s easy to forget that they’re getting old. I know that some family members might live in different areas of the world, and can’t travel to go see them. Perhaps you can have a virtual dinner (if it works for the time zones you live in), or write them letters instead. Or send each other videos via email, or other social media platforms. The point is some times we don’t make time for our family, as often as we should.

Today, I will make more time to see or socialize with my family some way or another. Family is more valuable than we think it is. It is necessary to make time for family members. Family may be all that we have, so it is good for us to enjoy everything about them. When they pass on, we always wish to see them one more time.

Day 50

This lesson is from Friday. I have been struggling to teach myself this, because more often enough, I feel like I can be super hard on myself. I know I shouldn’t be, but sometimes I just can’t help myself.

More often enough I feel like I get so busy, that I end up skipping on my blog posts for a day, or two. I feel bad because I know that I have a lot of fans, or so I like to think so. I feel like I am letting everyone down. So I try my best to come back on as soon as I can. This time I am trying not to be so hard on myself. We are all humans. And sometimes our priorities make us focus on different things, and that’s okay. And then before we know it, we either have ran out of time, or energy. But what is important is that we accept that we aren’t robots, and that it is okay to not be able to finish everything we were hoping to do. Which would help us if we don’t have a long to-do list, instead we should learn to only have a to-do list of three most important things. This will help us learn to not be so hard on ourselves.

Today, I will learn to not be so hard on myself. I would like to encourage everyone to not be so hard on themselves, as well. It is a hard world out there. So we should learn to be easy on ourselves, and to love ourselves, instead of having all of these negative feelings towards ourselves. We are in the middle of a pandemic, still, so all the more reason to go easy on yourself.

Pandemic

I can’t believe that we are near the end of 2020. 18 days left. I’ve been trying my hardest to make the best of the situation of what the year has thrown at us.

The whole Covid-19 pandemic has taught me valuable lessons such as, make time for what matters, don’t procrastinate, and always be grateful. Mind you I did have a grasp of these concepts but this reminded me to enforce these ideas even more.

One of the negatives from the viruses, is that they have been many families who have lost loved ones from the virus. My heart goes out to everyone who is hurting. Things might not get easier, but one thing for sure is that we do stronger. I am so thankful for the health workers and everyone who is at the front lines battling this disease.

Although I feel sad, because it seems to me, like a lot of people are divided over this virus. Mostly because there are people who think this is a hoax. And these people are calling the ones that do believe in this virus mean names. I don’t like how people have become divided on the topic. I wished that this would have brought us closer together (well, from six feet apart). We really do need to work together on this to help each other.

This virus has helped others focus on their mental health, which is something that we don’t always talk about enough. But it allowed others to seek help, they might not have if it weren’t for the virus. It allowed us to finally put our mental health as a priority.

It has given me more time to truly wonder what I want to do with my life. I always dreamt of being my own boss, by wanting to be a writer, and blogger. But I also want to be a psychologist to help people as well. I believe that we all have the power to make better choices.

One of the benefits from Covid-19, is that I am a bit scared of germs, so I have always been cautious of germs. I do feel a bit relieved that now I am not the only one that is taking precautions when it comes to germs. I felt like people have always made fun of me, behind my back, and sometimes even to my face. And now it is a nice situation where people are now more cautious. I just hate the circumstances of what held to these events. But there are measures in place to ensure we are all safe, or at least the safest we can be.

I have always been worried about germs since, as long as I can remember. It stemmed from childhood. When I move, I prefer to spend time cleaning my new space before I move my belongings in. When I moved in with my boyfriend, and his family, that was a big adjustment to me. I only felt comfortable washing my dishes. These habits do cause me to feel stress. I do have a lot of struggles adapting to new things and places. All we can do is learn to take things one day at a time.

Another benefit of the pandemic is that it really showed me what I really want to do in my life. I learned that I don’t want to work for someone else’s dream. I want to work on my dream. My dream is to be a writer, and a blogger. I know my chances are making it big, and famous are probably just one percent, but some other famous person had the same thought, and yet they ended up fulfilling their goals. As am I.

“With everything that has happened to you, you can feel sorry for yourself, or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

-Dr. Wayne Dyer

Self Care

Self care is extremely important, especially with how chaotic the world is right now. It’s okay to not be okay when the world isn’t okay. The vast majority of the world’s population haven’t lived in a pandemic before, so it’s okay to not always know what you need to do next.

But what you should always do is, learn to take care of yourself. It’s important to engage in healthy coping mechanisms like yoga, meditation, or other forms of exercises. Another tip is work on a plan on making sure you are getting enough sleep every night. Work on maintaining a healthy diet of vegetables and fruits.

But it’s also important to learn to take a rest, instead of quitting. Lets use this time of uncertainty to work together, and strengthen others, instead of bringing people down. It’s okay to ask for help. This pandemic is a hardship for everyone. Most importantly, make time to do things that make you happy.

Ripple Effects of the Pandemic

I haven’t really vocalized much about the whole coronavirus, and the ripple effects it has caused us. But here is a snippet of my thoughts about it. I will be mentioning mental health crises, so that may be a trigger to others, but it does provide a powerful message to others.

The pandemic has thrown quite a wrench into 2020. It hasn’t just effected our economy, but it has dramatically effected our mental health. Between the lockdown, and having people in quarantine, it definitely has made people feel lonely. A lot of retirement homes were no longer allowing visitors in, our Grandparents and parents must be so lonely. So if you have family in retirement homes, and you can’t visit them, call them instead.

Not only has it made people feel lonely, but depressed, and unworthy.

But I was thinking about this other serious situation at the start of the the lockdowns was that people were going to stay in their houses more, and not have many places to go. I feared that many people were going to suffer in silence and continue to get abused. It would be easier for the people whom abused others to “get away” with it, since there wasn’t much happening in the world. I feel for every victim out there who has been suffering. I send you my love and healing powers, so you can get better.

I was reminded about this issue again, when Dr. Phil did an episode about survivors of abuse. I wasn’t able to watch that episode, but I did watch a video of what Dr. Phil was thinking about during the interview.

Something that Dr. Phil said was, “law enforcers only know what they are reported.” And added, “If you see something wrong, report it.”

He feels concerned that with all of the schools that closed right now, that they are children who are suffering. He feels that way because schools have mandatory reporters such as teachers, coaches who are legally responsible and required to report any suspicion of neglect and abuse. He wishes that it was safe for children to return to school, so children can be safer.

He suggests that if you see anything wrong, you should report it, because you never know who you are going to help. It can be anything from a bruise, to malnutrition. Dr. Phil recommends that you call the police, or you can report this to your country sheriff. You can remain anonymous, and just inform them that you live across the street, or next door to someone who is abusing someone else. You then request a wellness check to this said family.

They would make an unannounced visit, and see for themselves what is taking place in that household. We have to work together, in order to help others. Your call can just save someone’s life, and be their saving grace.