Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 21

I have really enjoyed writing about this topic of kindness, and how much joy we can spread to each other. It is a lot more positive than just spending money, making us go in debt.

Today’s challenge is to let someone know that they have changed your life, or has inspired you to do better. It can be written as a letter, email, or text message, or you can call up this person and let them how much of an impact they had on your life. I’m sure this person would love to hear that they had such an inspiring impact on your life.

Healing

Here is this week’s quote, this is to help you overcome anything that this week throws at you.

When you decide you want to change your life for the better, it might not come easy, at first. And that is okay. Healing is a process, and it doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to break old habits, and make new ones, better habits.

Whenever you find yourself “stuck”, and feeling like you are not much better than what you were two days ago, it’s okay to feel lost, or some cases dissatisfied. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Trust yourself, and your journey.

A Photographer’s Perspective

It’s another edition of our weekly quote, to get us started this week. Hopefully it is off to a great start.

This quote can sum up 2020. Yes, the year gave us a lot of heart ache, anxiety, and overall it was a difficult year for the majority of us. But it just meant that we need to change our attitude and perspective on certain things. Let’s focus on how 2020 helped us want to better ourselves, what it taught us, and what changes it made us want for ourselves.

This is a reminder that no matter how difficult something is, it doesn’t mean that things won’t get better, they will. All it takes is a change of how we see things. Don’t let bad times bring you down, just know that these bad times are just part of the journey.

Thankful Thursdays #23

This is where I talk about all of my grateful moments throughout the week. I encourage everyone to do the same. If you don’t have the time or resources to think about you are thankful, you can still spend some time thinking about what you are thankful for.

Here is my list.

  1. Many of you may not know this, but a year ago today, I got hit by a car on my walk to work. I didn’t suffer any life-threatening injuries, not even a broken bone. I think about how lucky and how grateful I am for being able to not suffer from that accident.
  2. My roommate bought us buns and deli meats, so I made myself a delicious sandwich for lunch.
  3. I am grateful that I had the time to take a nap, since I woke up with a headache, but I’m feeling a bit better now.
  4. I got to watch a football game yesterday, which is pretty odd for the NFL to be on a Wednesday. Although I know there have been several games that have played on a Wednesday before.
  5. I am thankful for having motivation to make changes and better habits in my life. All in all I feel proud and happy for myself again.

I would love to know what you are thankful for.

This is something I have been working on and thinking about. It isn’t done yet, obviously. But I will keep everyone posted.

One Year Later…

A year ago, today, I was hit by a car walking to work. I haven’t even told many people in my family, I guess I just didn’t want them to worry about me. Not many of my family follows my blog, at least not yet anyway. I was extremely thankful and lucky that I didn’t die, or suffer any life threatening injuries from my accident. I only suffered bruises and a bit of swelling. Not even a broken bone. I think my Guardian Angel was my Great Aunt. I like to think that she was watching over me protecting me that day. I remember the last time, I had visited her, she called me her girl, and hugged me. I knew that I always held a special place in her heart.

If you would like to read the original story of my accident, although it may be a bit graphic for some readers. I tried my best not to be too graphic. You can read the original story here, https://threeyellowdaisies.ca/2020/05/29/second-chance/ The purpose of this post is to provide hope and wisdom to other people, and not so much of the story of the accident.

Now I spend my days trying to cram doing all the things that make me happy throughout my days, because we truly don’t know when our last day may be. I was able to start writing my blog again, five months after my accident. I first started this blog in May of 2015, and managed to write it for a year, and took a break, and nearly forgotten about it for four years. But here I am, back and better than ever. And here to stay.

I know that they are many people who lose their lives due to motor vehicle accidents every year. In Canada there were 1,922 people who died in 2018 from a motor vehicle traffic collision. (1) I am truly sorry for everyone who has lost a loved one from a car accident. My heart goes out to you all.

A year ago today, I am reminded that any one of us can die so suddenly, so let’s not waste a day, or even a second for holding a grudge, or hatred towards someone. Why waste a day, being anything, but happy? We should make every one of our days count for something. We should add joy and happiness in someone else’s day. The best part is that doesn’t take a lot of effort. When we make other people happy, it also makes us happy, too. It’s a win win situation. And sometimes people don’t get so lucky with having a second chance at life. So find something that makes you happy, and brings joy to your life. Life truly does go by pretty fast, faster than we think.

I hope everyone can use this tragedy as a reminder to go out and find your passion. Really start living your life. You don’t know what the future is going to bring you, so don’t let it pass you by.

A year later, I still feel pain from time to time in my right thigh where I got hit. I still get a bit anxious going out for a walk, especially at busy interactions, and busy roads. I have always been cautious crossing the street before my accident. And now, I’m even more cautious, if that’s even possible. I avoided having to do any obligations and errands for today, so I don’t have to go outside. It must sound a bit lame, but I just don’t have the strength to go out on the anniversary of my accident.

Getting hit by a car, really changed my life for the better. It gave me motivation to take over my life, again. I learned that I was too focused of living my life to other people’s standards, and not so much as to my standards. I was doing something that people wanted me to do. I even started studying accounting a few years ago, since people told me that I should be an accountant, because I was organized, had a good memory, and good with numbers. I learned that maybe, that’s what I’m not meant to do. And now I am slowly doing the things I want to do for myself. I found my true passions. In the fifth grade I wanted to be a writer, and right now I have been dedicating time to write. I want to add joy to people’s lives, by helping them see the good in themselves, and helping them realize that things do get better.

Throughout the year, other areas of my life have changed, my boyfriend and I no longer live with his family, but now we live with his friend and his family. I no longer work at that coffee shop. Not for reasons related to the accident. That’s just how life worked out for us. I couldn’t be more happy. I was working for someone else’s dreams, and not really have a lot of time to focus on my dreams, and what my passions are. Right now, I have been focusing on my blog, and writing some stories. That is what I am passionate about.

I see this day as a reminder to live my life, chase after my dreams, not try to appease what people want me to do, or they say to me when I’ve just been writing some ideas down. Even though the accident didn’t make much sense, like I always asked myself, why did that happen to me? Why did I lived? I really started questioning my purpose. I’m not working at the moment, but I have been using this time to work on what I am passionate about, which is writing. How thankful I am that I only ended up with bruises. Because I know, not everyone is as lucky. I am thankful that I still get to help others, and that I get to be here for my loved ones. The universe saw something greater in me, than I was capable of seeing in myself, and the universe didn’t want my story to end. This accident ignited a fire in me, that I should do something in my life. It reminds me to always find my purpose and happiness, and go in that direction, and not move backwards.

I hope that people can take away that their life doesn’t last forever, only their legacy does. It’s best not to waste your purpose by living someone else’s dreams. Go and chase your passion. Life is limited, so go out there and make something out of your life.

  1. https://tc.canada.ca/en/road-transportation/motor-vehicle-safety/canadian-motor-vehicle-traffic-collision-statistics-2018

What You Don’t Want Becomes What You Need

Hey, everyone! Let’s start our week off with positive vibes and thoughts.

Perhaps you have thought, “Why life has been throwing curveballs at you?”, and you don’t know why at first. The universe isn’t punishing you. It is giving you new perspective and sometimes even a new beginning. It may be hard to see it now, but it may be everything you need.

You can’t see a rainbow, until after you go through a storm. The universe has a crazy plan for all of us. There may be times where we don’t see that things will work out for us, but things actually work out better than we can ever imagine. What we may not realize was the crazy detour the universe gave us, was just what we needed.

Whenever you are going through something, just trust the universe knows what is best. It might just take some time to get use to the changes, but things will get better. You’ll soon realize why you needed to go through these transformations. When these events unfold, you’ll be truly grateful for these events.

Day 149 of 192

I have a lot of lip balms I no longer use, mostly because of how old these are. When you are starting your decluttering mission, it is best to start with items that you won’t miss, like expired make up, medication, etc.

Then once you have gained the strength and confidence, you can start tackling items that hold a bit more value to you, like clothes.

Whenever you start a big, new task, it’s always best to start small, and to always celebrate your accomplishments along the way.

Day 117 of 192

This is Saturday’s item.

When I was going through my possessions, I found some of my old lip balms. I have no idea as to why I have kept these. I probably had these for seven years, maybe even longer.

But the best thing about starting with stuff like expired items, whether it’s medication, make up or anything else. It is easy for us to discard these items. When we start with these items, we are building the strength and confidence for the harder items.

If you like to start your own decluttering journey, start with these items, and allow yourself to build up confidence. Remember you don’t have to purge your life in one day, always start small and keep on moving forward.

Even if you remove a few items from your life, you will be able to notice the benefits of living with less.

Why We Should Make Resolutions in October

I’m not sure how many of you make New Year’s Resolutions, but if you do, here’s an interesting approach.

I think the perfect time to make New Year’s Resolutions is October, think about, you are starting a second month of changes. Perhaps you are a parent and you have children that attend school. You might not have had a perfect month of smooth sailing, because perhaps the children weren’t ready to go back to school from their summer vacation. But now that they have a month of getting into the swing of things, they are able to make improvements.

Another reason why October is the perfect month to start resolutions, is that sometimes January is too daunting, or too much pressure to start anything new. Most people believe that starting to make changes in January, becomes too pressurized. It’s almost like the time where you buy yourself this cool journal, and you are too nervous to use it because you are scared to make a mistake in it.

Another reason why October is the perfect time to make resolutions is that more likely, whichever country you are in, you are in the transition of welcoming another season. I’m not sure, but a lot of people do seasonally chores, so your house is already freshened up, so will you. The end of the previous season is the beginning of a new season.

These are my reasons as to why I think October is the ideal time to make resolutions instead of waiting until January.

I would love to hear from you! If you make any resolutions, what do you normally like to change? And did I convince you to make New Year’s Resolutions in October?