So, today brought me some challenges. My boyfriend and I have been facing disagreements, as of lately. Which has been allowing me to focus on how to fight right with someone, which is one of my resolutions for February. There are several ways where arguments can cause even more trouble than what you two, or however many people are involved in the situation, worse than what the disagreement was.
For one, heated arguments make people say things they don’t mean. Although they shouldn’t use the argument as an excuse. But it does happen from time to time. When this happens, the person who was just called a bad name, may excuse themselves from the argument, and may take longer to heal from this argument.
One way to solve this situation, is to calmly let the person you are mad or in a disagreement know how you feel. Use “I feel” statements. Give them to time to process what you are feeling. You can bring to talk about the situation, or you can ever write a letter about what you are feeling. That way you will refrain yourself from saying something hurtful. The extra time it takes you to write a letter, the more time it will give you reflect on what you are currently fighting about.
When you have explained what and why you are feeling a certain, give the letter to the person you are having a disagreement with. Let them read and write up an apology and next steps to ensure the same thing doesn’t happen again.
Today, I will realize that there are several ways to end a conflict, while trying not to be rude to the person I am fighting with. May this disagreement bring us closer together by letting us see where things went wrong, so we can work together to repair it.