What bothers me is that my mom is convinced that she is able to accomplish more by doing some many things at once. But I disagree. I rather like to focus on one thing at a time. Like she would be reading the newspaper while watching TV, or she would paint her nails while she watches her shows. To me, I like things to be simple. So I like to do one thing at a time.
I feel like if we don’t focus on just one thing at a time, we no longer stay in the moment of what we are actually doing. To me, multi-tasking is a lie. I feel like the more we spend time doing more than one thing, than we aren’t being mindful. And then because you weren’t focusing on the task at hand, you think, did I do this? Did I remember to lock the door?
When you are working on a task, you should just pour your passion and stamina into that task. Don’t let anything else lose your concentration, or distract you from what you are working on.
Today, I will only work on one task at a time. It is important for our brains to focus on one task at a time. If we multitask than we not only jumble our thoughts and emotions, but we also lose our ability to mindful about the task at hand.
I became inspired from Melody Beattie about her meditation book called The Language of Letting Go. She writes a piece of advice, and affirmation every day of the year. I wanted to make my own, as well. I write about life lessons I have learned throughout the day, or throughout my life. I feel like I have a lot of wisdom to pass on to others. Mind you everyone has different opinions about everything else, so take what you like, and leave the rest. Mind you, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want during this journey. I am trying to work towards being more mindful, and present this year.
One of my favourite hobbies is writing, whether it’s writing my blogs, or writing short stories. It is something that I have always spent time doing. I also like to journal my feelings, and my goals, too. But something that I haven’t done in awhile is write someone a letter. I used to write my boyfriend a letter every so often, even though we live together, but it is nice to write someone a letter. I also liked writing to my cousin as well. But that was something we stopped not too long ago. That is something I hope her and I can continue.
Writing someone a letter, and let them that you miss them, or why you love them will instantly brighten their day. And knowing that you helped someone feel good about themselves, will make you feel happier, too. Writing also helps you clear your head, and help you pause and reflect on what truly matters. If you like to, you can save your letters for a scrap book, or to keep and treasure for later. And there are many other benefits to writing a letter to someone.
You can even write someone an email, too. Although you might not experience the same benefits by actually writing a letter by hand. Only because when you write a letter by hand, you have to put more thought into your writing, whereas with email, it is a bit easier since you can backspace, and rearrange certain sentences.
Today, I will try my best to write someone a letter to someone who is dear to me. I will express my appreciation and love that I have towards them. It is important that I remind my loved ones how much they mean to me.
Late Tuesday night, I came across this exciting concept. It was originally published in Gretchen Rubin’s Podcast.
The concept is you walk 20 minutes a day, every day in 2020. Although I am quite late, but there are still 63 days left of the year, so it’s not too late to join this trend.
Walking has many great benefits such as lowering stress levels, anxiety, boosts immune system, and promotes better sleep. It helps you remove yourself from being trapped inside, and take a break outdoors. Being out in nature, is really relaxing and helps you be mindful.
Although, some days might be challenging based on how chilly it might get, since where I live we are in the transition to winter. This is something I am going to work towards for the next nine weeks.
I am so excited. And I hope a lot of you can join this trend. Walking 20 minutes is so manageable and beneficial to us. Yesterday I walked for around one hour since it was a really nice day.
Whenever you get in an argument with someone dear, instead of bickering and yelling at them, or playing the blame game, perhaps you should try to write them a letter.
When you are writing this letter, be sure to include the following statements, such as, “I feel _______, when you do _______”. And be sure to refrain from my using vulgar language, name calling, or anything else that is negative and uncalled for.
You begin to write about what you are angry, or upset you are, and what caused you to feel these emotions. The person that you are having this disagreement with, is to just sit there waiting for your letter.
Once you have finished writing your letter, you then hand it to the person you are having this disagreement with. If you live together, you can just simply hand it to them. If they don’t live with you, you can safely deliver it yourself, or mail it depending on where they live.
The recipient now can respond to the letter, with what was written to them. They have the same rules where they are not allowed to call you names. They can discuss their feelings to you, and let you know where they are coming from.
Keep on writing until an agreement of how to do things differently, an apology.
The point of this exercise is to be more mindful of what exactly you are thinking. How many times has countless hours of arguing resulted in you saying something uncalled for and unnecessary that made the person you are arguing with feel even worse? This saves you from saying something hurtful, that you will regret later.
And perhaps you and your partner or who ever you are having this disagreement with aren’t the best with words, perhaps you are more artistic. By all means, you can draw a picture instead. And if you aren’t the best at either, perhaps you can find another way to express your feelings in a mindful way.
By finding healthier ways to express your feelings throughout a disagreement, it will save you and your partner a lot of heartache later.
Every Friday I write a passage from Eckhart Tolle’s book. He is a world famous spiritual teacher and he encourages us to be present.
“You may think that you need more time to understand the past or become free of it, in other words, that the future will eventually free you of the past. That is a delusion. Only the present can free you of the past.”
In this paragraph of his book, Practicing the Power of Now, he is talking about the only way you can free yourself from the past, is to be present. I would like to think that he wrote this by being inspired from Buddha. Buddha describes enlightenment of ending all suffering. So whenever you find yourself in the present, you are able to find enlightenment. Which you may feel enlightened, although other people may feel it faster than others, and that’s okay. The important thing is, is to not give up. Always bring yourself back to the present moment.
Every Friday I post an inspirational quote from Eckhart Tolle’s books. He is a spiritual teacher. He is an author who has published many books teaching and encouraging us to be more mindful. He has even appeared on Oprah Winfrey talk show.
“In this way, you grow in presence power. It generates an energy field in you and around you of a high vibrational frequency. Ni unconsciousness, no negativity, no discord or violence can enter that field and survive, just as darkness cannot survive in the presence of light.”
-Eckhart Tolle, Practicing the Power of Now
In this passage he talking about how us being more mindful can provide us with so many benefits. It can help remove darkness and uncertainty in our lives. When we begin to focus on ourselves and staying in the moment, that is when our lives will truly begin to change, for the better.
When our mindset begins to shift into the present, we tend to forgive our past and everything that has happened up until this point, and we learn not to be anxious about the future, we start to notice the small things in our lives. Like the smell of roses, the sounds of the birds, wind blowing through the leaves, the rain. I feel like once we start to observe the small things in life, it would help us have a calmer mindset, which will help us find the answers to our problems.
Top Ten Tuesday was created by The Broke and the Bookish in June of 2010 and was moved to That Artsy Reader Girl in January of 2018. It was born of a love of lists, a love of books, and a desire to bring bookish friends together.
The rules are simple:
Each Tuesday, Jana assigns a new topic. Create your own Top Ten list that fits that topic – putting your unique spin on it if you want.
Everyone is welcome to join but please link back to The Artsy Reader Girl in your own Top Ten Tuesday post.
This week’s theme is cover freebie (choose your own topic, centred on books cover or cover art). So, with that in mind, I am going to talk about my books with blue covers. I was going to pick yellow, but I saw that in a few weeks it will be showcasing Autumn coloured covers. I decided to save those colours for that week. I then realized that I have a lot of blue book covers.
So here we go… No particular order.
10. You Can Heal Your Life
I haven’t read this book, but I love anything Louis Hay. This book is about finding and changing your life. It’s about learning to believe in yourself.
9. The Now Effect
Another book I haven’t gotten a chance to read, but this is about mindfulness, and being present.
8. You Are A Badass Every Day
This is on my To Be Read List. I have read her first two books, and they were amazing books. This book just seems to remind us that we are powerful, and unstoppable.
7. Eat Pray Love Made Me Do It
These are journal entries about how reading Eat Pray Love has inspired people to make changes in their lives. I have started reading this book, but I will definitely pick it up again, because it was quite insightful.
6. Make Your Bed
I have always been one to make my bed every morning. In this book McRaven mentions how by starting your day with completing a simple task, it allows you to keep on completing the next task, followed by another task. I really enjoyed this book.
5. Everything is F*cked: A Book
This book is on my To Be Read List. And I am so excited to read it!
4. 101 Life Lessons Without the Bullsh*t
I loved reading this book. It was so simple, yet so inspiring. I highly recommend reading this book.
3. Make Miracles in Forty Days
I love reading Melody Beattie books. She is someone who has been through many struggles in her life, and was able to inspire many people, including me.
2. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
I received this book as a Christmas present. I really enjoyed reading this book, because it was quite educational and gave me insight into the business world.
This is another book on my To Be Read List. I used to be a huge worrier, but now I’m slowly learning to not worry as much. So this book looks like it would be helpful to continue to worry less.
What I love about Eckhart Tolle, is that he really makes you want to stay in the present. It makes me more aware of my emotions and feelings. I have noticed that whenever I focus less on the past and future, I am more at peace with myself. I am more relaxed, as well.
“Always say ‘yes’ to the present moment. Say ‘yes’ to life – and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
Focusing on the present moment instead of allowing yourself to be dragged down by your past, or allowing yourself feel anxious about the future, is beneficial to a happy life. You allow yourself to be more relaxed and calm. Being calm will help you make wiser and better decisions. This is how you make your life work for you.