Day 73

This lesson is from Sunday March 14th.

I became inspired from Melody Beattie about her meditation book called The Language of Letting Go. She writes a piece of advice, and affirmation every day of the year. I wanted to make my own, as well. I write about life lessons I have learned throughout the day, or throughout my life. I feel like I have a lot of wisdom to pass on to others. Mind you everyone has different opinions about everything else, so take what you like, and leave the rest. Mind you, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want during this journey. I am trying to work towards being more mindful, and present this year.

One of my favourite hobbies is writing, whether it’s writing my blogs, or writing short stories. It is something that I have always spent time doing. I also like to journal my feelings, and my goals, too. But something that I haven’t done in awhile is write someone a letter. I used to write my boyfriend a letter every so often, even though we live together, but it is nice to write someone a letter. I also liked writing to my cousin as well. But that was something we stopped not too long ago. That is something I hope her and I can continue.

Writing someone a letter, and let them that you miss them, or why you love them will instantly brighten their day. And knowing that you helped someone feel good about themselves, will make you feel happier, too. Writing also helps you clear your head, and help you pause and reflect on what truly matters. If you like to, you can save your letters for a scrap book, or to keep and treasure for later. And there are many other benefits to writing a letter to someone.

You can even write someone an email, too. Although you might not experience the same benefits by actually writing a letter by hand. Only because when you write a letter by hand, you have to put more thought into your writing, whereas with email, it is a bit easier since you can backspace, and rearrange certain sentences.

Today, I will try my best to write someone a letter to someone who is dear to me. I will express my appreciation and love that I have towards them. It is important that I remind my loved ones how much they mean to me.

Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 16

Instead of stressing out about Christmas shopping, and wrapping everyone’s presents, let’s normalize hand-me-downs, gifts of love, or even no gifts. We shouldn’t have to go into debt telling people how much we love them.

Write a letter to your postal carrier, and let them know how much you have appreciated and how grateful you are for their services this year. I hope this year, people change their perspective on a postal carrier’s duties, since a lot of them delivered our parcels, which saved us from going to out to crowded malls. Or if you were in lockdown at sometime throughout the year, and the only way we could have gotten something we needed was to order it online.

You can leave this letter in your mail box, just be sure to write the words, Postal Carrier, or if you know their name, you can write that on your envelope. My Dad is a letter carrier, and a long time ago, one of the houses he delivered to, gave him a box of chocolates, and one of her Porcelain dolls to give to me. I loved it so much, that I still have it to this day.

Fight Right

Whenever you get in an argument with someone dear, instead of bickering and yelling at them, or playing the blame game, perhaps you should try to write them a letter.

When you are writing this letter, be sure to include the following statements, such as, “I feel _______, when you do _______”. And be sure to refrain from my using vulgar language, name calling, or anything else that is negative and uncalled for.

You begin to write about what you are angry, or upset you are, and what caused you to feel these emotions. The person that you are having this disagreement with, is to just sit there waiting for your letter.

Once you have finished writing your letter, you then hand it to the person you are having this disagreement with. If you live together, you can just simply hand it to them. If they don’t live with you, you can safely deliver it yourself, or mail it depending on where they live.

The recipient now can respond to the letter, with what was written to them. They have the same rules where they are not allowed to call you names. They can discuss their feelings to you, and let you know where they are coming from.

Keep on writing until an agreement of how to do things differently, an apology.

The point of this exercise is to be more mindful of what exactly you are thinking. How many times has countless hours of arguing resulted in you saying something uncalled for and unnecessary that made the person you are arguing with feel even worse? This saves you from saying something hurtful, that you will regret later.

And perhaps you and your partner or who ever you are having this disagreement with aren’t the best with words, perhaps you are more artistic. By all means, you can draw a picture instead. And if you aren’t the best at either, perhaps you can find another way to express your feelings in a mindful way.

By finding healthier ways to express your feelings throughout a disagreement, it will save you and your partner a lot of heartache later.

Day Nineteen

Hi again!

Today we should feel grateful for getting mail. Whether it be letters and cards from family and friends or be packages from online shopping. We should always express our appreciation for our letter carriers who provide us with this service.

I love getting mail, there’s just something about it. It makes me happy.

Day Sixteen

Let’s be thankful for our phones and laptops as they are used to keep us in touch with our loved ones when we can’t visit them during these times of uncertainty.

I love that I can call up my sister and grandparents whenever I want to hear their voice. I can Facetime my niece and see her play with her toys. It brings a big joy in my life.

I love having the luxury of being able to message my family and friend all at my fingertips, and being able to get a quick response.

Communication sure has updated throughout my lifetime. I remember helping my Grandma write her Christmas cards out to her family and friends. Later letters got replaced with e-mails. And now text messages is now becoming one of the top choices in communicating with others.

I am grateful for being able to communicate with my family and friends so easily and efficiently.