Day 44

I know that this weekend is supposed to be filled with love, and happiness. But sometimes things don’t go as planned. Which can sometimes be okay.

My boyfriend and I spent the Saturday before Valentine’s Day fighting. It was a long fight, and I feel sad that it happened on Valentine’s Day weekend. But from what I have learnt, is that it is okay to be angry. But what isn’t okay is how you respond to your anger. You shouldn’t insult another person, but it is necessary to have a meaningful heart to heart conversations about why and how you feel unhappy. Thinking of solutions of how things can get better, is ideal. Although you don’t have to think solutions right away. Solutions will come to you when you need them to.

As of right now, things are better between us, but I am sad that we wasted a day fighting with each other.

Today, I will learn to accept that it is okay to be angry, but it isn’t okay to express my feelings of angry in hurtful ways. I can have heart to heart conversations with the person you are conflict with. It is necessary to come up with solutions in order to prevent these situations from happening again. Whenever I speak from the heart, I will be mindful of who I am talking, and how my words may come across as hurtful.

Thankful Thursdays #29 – January 14th, 2021

I cannot believe how fast January is moving on by. It feels like it is just going by too fast.

I love writing and talking about what I am thankful for. I feel like I have a lot to thankful for. Here is a list of things that I am thankful for. I would love to hear what you are all thankful for.

  1. I got to unwind last weekend, by watching all of the football games. I love watching football! It’s one my favourite sports to watch. Although I am sad, because it is almost the off season again.
  2. I got to babysit my niece. Her and I always have a lot of fun together. I love her so much.
  3. She got a plastic musical tea set for Christmas, so her and I had a mini “tea” party. She is almost two, so it was all pretend, but it was still fun. The plastic set also comes with pieces of cake, and plates.
  4. It was a nice enough day so I was able to take her to the park. She loved it.
  5. My boyfriend and I have been enjoying our home cooked meals since we have been cutting back on take out. And cooking is a lot of fun. I have been cooking in the crock pot, which means I cook and prepare in the mornings, and don’t have a lot of dishes to do later in the evening.

How to Have a Merry but Stress Less Christmas

I know this is a bit late. But I know they are some people out there that start Christmas shopping right after Christmas, for the sales, and whatever else. Shopping is an addiction. I hope this helps other have a more cheerful Christmas with less stress, and more money in your pockets. These ideas can be applied to birthday presents, too.

Everyone knows how stressful Christmas can be. And yet, everyone we swear next year will be different, it will be less stressful. But the cycle just continues and things become more extravagant than the year prior.

If you are sort of in a holidaze from the stress, or from the mess of Christmas. I have solutions for you!

Cut Back on Gift Giving

Instead of going into thousands of dollars in debt, like some do. But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can have a family discussion via Zoom, or Skype, depending on your restrictions. What I am trying to do is keep it simple as possible, but still enjoyable for others.

Buy them the following;

  • Something they want
  • Something they need
  • Something to wear
  • Something to read

That way you just only need to buy four things for everyone, instead of your typical pile of gifts. This is a good solution if you are looking for ways to cut back on buying some many presents for everyone.

Or another solution is to have everyone pitch in money for one big present.

Cut Back On Presents

Or perhaps you want to cut back on presents completely. That way you just enjoy each other’s company. Perhaps it has become too much hauling all of these presents to peoples’ houses. Or maybe you just don’t want to buy people actual presents, and objects. Then perhaps an idea for you would be to give people an experience. I hope things are different next year, where more things are more available for us to do.

Some ideas of experiences are,

  • Concert tickets
  • Movie/Plays/Stand up comedy, etc.
  • Spa Outing
  • Wine tasting (depending on the age of the recipient)
  • Other festivals if they are too young, or don’t drink

Give Others Your Time

Another solution is to give others your time, it’s free!

Perhaps you can offer a sibling, or a friend, or a neighbour a night off from their kids, so they can enjoy a night out. Or perhaps you know how to cook this delicious meal, you can teach someone else to make it. Or you know how to crochet, or knit, you can always offer to teach someone else how to do that.

By cutting back on giving out presents you don’t have to wrap any presents, which is a plus, too. Less work to do. And it also helps the environment, since most places don’t allow wrapping paper to be recycled, so all of that just ends up in a landfill. If you are still handing out gifts, perhaps you can use dish clothes, or scarves, or a blanket, instead.

Secret Santa

Secret Santa is when you put names in a hat, and you secretly place names of everyone in the group. Each person pulls out a name from the hat. That is who they are supposed to shop for. You would have a discussed budget, of how much money you want to spend, and you have to stay under that amount. You can discuss some things you would like to receive for Christmas, and your Secret Santa will buy you some of those things for you.

Don’t be a Michael Scott

I don’t know how many of you watch The Office, but there was this one Christmas episode, where they did Secret Santa, they had a $20 limit. Michael bought a $400 iPod, and got mad because Phyllis was Michael’s Secret Santa, and she knitted him an oven mitt. Please don’t be that guy that overspends on Christmas, especially when you know this person doesn’t have a lot of money. You don’t want the other person to feel bad that you didn’t get as many presents as much as you had given them.

Respect Their Wishes

Sometimes people say they don’t want any gifts. Please know they really mean no gifts. Some people realize they are already happy with everything they already have, and would not have someone go out and spend money on them. There is no secret language to “No gifts”, that isn’t their way to trick you, and making you wonder if they actually mean. Or if it means they just “don’t know yet”. If someone tells you no gifts, please honour their wish.

Shoe Box Ideas

I just heard of this idea not too long ago. You can fill a shoe box, filled with envelopes with different gift cards to different occasions for each month. You can only open an envelope on the first day of the month, and you make plans sometime throughout the month to do that activity. This works great for children, because they get the activity and the anticipation of not knowing which adventure they will be partaking in. I think that is an amazing idea. And if you can’t afford to buy all of the gift cards at once, you can just write a letter and letting them about each activity. That way you just have to budget this in once a month, instead of having to come up with x amount of money before Christmas.

Or another idea is that you can ask other people for money, or ask for mini hygiene products, and perhaps a backpack they no longer use (but it’s still in good condition). You can fill up a backpack with toothbrushes, toothpaste, money, shampoo and conditioner, deodorant, etc. You can give this to a homeless person, or to a shelter. I suggest using the traveler size of things, so it is easier for them to carry around, and you can fit more stuff in the bag.

Christmas doesn’t have to cost a fortune to be memorable. Christmas is about helping others, spread love, and happiness. We should begin to refrain ourselves from the commercialization, that we have suddenly allowed to be the norm of Christmas.

Candy Cane Matcha Iced Latte

Here is another post for Tea Tuesdays.

My sister-in-law bought my boyfriend and I this cool matcha kit for Christmas. It comes with the whisk, and a bowl to whisk the powder. We already have a bowl, and whisk set, but I am still happy that we have another. Now my boyfriend and I can make our own matcha together. She also got us a set of four stackable mugs, which are really cool. I’ll for sure post photos in an upcoming post.

Here is our matcha bowl.

The matcha tea I picked was Candy Cane, which shockingly I haven’t had any this whole season yet. I was saving it since I didn’t have much left.

First thing I did was I began boiling the kettle. While the kettle was boiling, I measured my matcha powder into the bowl.

I added some ice cubes to my mug. I used my cozy sweater mug, because that one is my favourite one.

Next, I poured the boiling water over the powder to form a liquid.

I began whisking the liquid to ensure everything dissolved properly.

Whilst I was whisking to make it frothy, I let my eggnog frothed in my milk frother.

Once finished, I poured my matcha tea over the ice cubes, topped off with my frothed eggnog.

It was delicious! 🙂

Day 187 of 192

Hey, sorry I’ve been in a bit of a holidaze, as some might call it. But here I am. I hope everyone had a festive and safe holiday.

This item is from Saturday, as I am a bit behind with my posts.

I haven’t worn these socks in awhile. I thought they were cool, but now I see them as ineffective, design wise, because no one can see the cute reindeer. Instead they just look like a regular pair of brown socks. So, perhaps someone can enjoy these socks more than I do.

Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 25

I cannot believe how fast December went by. Today is the final day of the Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020. I want to thank everyone for reading these challenges, and for partaking in them, as well. If you weren’t able to do all of the challenges, no worries, you can always spread joy and love next year, too.

Today, let us reflect of how lucky we truly are. Some of us might not even realize just how lucky and fortunate we truly are. I hope on this magical day, you genuinely feel the love and magic that this day has to bring.

Don’t let the stress from the holidays ruin your day. Your kids aren’t going to remember if everything was perfect, what they more than likely will remember is how happy everyone was.

I hope this Bucket List is helpful to you.

Although I know that with Covid going on, perhaps it’s a good idea to only hug those you know.

Day 186 of 192

Merry Christmas to those who celebrate! I hope that whatever you celebrate, you are having a joyous time.

The item that I am going to part with today is this shirt. I haven’t seen it before, so it must be my sister’s perhaps. I am going to ask her, if she doesn’t want it, I’m going to donate it.

It’s a cool shirt, but I’m happy with everything that I own already.

Thankful Thursdays #26 – December 24th, 2020

I have a lot to grateful for this time of year. I hope everyone can find gratitude in your heart. I would love to hear what everyone is grateful for.

Here is my list…

  1. One of my roommate is making steak and baked potatoes for tonight’s dinner. That’s exciting!
  2. I got to rearrange my room, slowly getting ready for the start of the 2021.
  3. By rearranging things in my room, I have more room for a dance party, that is always fun.
  4. My boyfriend has the day off work, so we are able to spend more time together.
  5. I was able to go grocery shopping, and found a lot of things on sale. That was exciting.

Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 22

It’s hard to believe that it is almost Christmas! I believe that we should use this magical time to spread some love and cheer to others.

Today our challenge is to leave a positive review on someone’s restaurant, or service. Bonus points if you are writing about a small business. I know where I live we are in a lockdown, but our restaurants are still open for take out and delivery. Being able to provide a positive word, or two, about a restaurant, that will really go a long way. I know the restaurant owners would be so happy to read your review.

And if you don’t have a computer to write a positive review, recommend this restaurant to a friend, or a family member. Tell them what you ordered, and what you like to get next time.

Day 183 of 192

The last nine days of the year! I cannot believe that we’re almost at the end of 2020. I really hope things improve next year.

This is today’s item. I have had this shirt for a little while now, and if you look closely you can see that it still has the tag on it. It’s time for me to part with this shirt. It looks like a really great shirt, but alas, it just isn’t for me. I’m sure my Grandma will know someone who would like it.