Day 50

This lesson is from Friday. I have been struggling to teach myself this, because more often enough, I feel like I can be super hard on myself. I know I shouldn’t be, but sometimes I just can’t help myself.

More often enough I feel like I get so busy, that I end up skipping on my blog posts for a day, or two. I feel bad because I know that I have a lot of fans, or so I like to think so. I feel like I am letting everyone down. So I try my best to come back on as soon as I can. This time I am trying not to be so hard on myself. We are all humans. And sometimes our priorities make us focus on different things, and that’s okay. And then before we know it, we either have ran out of time, or energy. But what is important is that we accept that we aren’t robots, and that it is okay to not be able to finish everything we were hoping to do. Which would help us if we don’t have a long to-do list, instead we should learn to only have a to-do list of three most important things. This will help us learn to not be so hard on ourselves.

Today, I will learn to not be so hard on myself. I would like to encourage everyone to not be so hard on themselves, as well. It is a hard world out there. So we should learn to be easy on ourselves, and to love ourselves, instead of having all of these negative feelings towards ourselves. We are in the middle of a pandemic, still, so all the more reason to go easy on yourself.

Courage

I hope everyone is having a good week, my week could definitely be a bit better.

I didn’t draw this, but I came across this photo on Facebook. I love Oprah Winfrey and quotes.

But with this whole pandemic going on, I have been doing some soul searching and wanting to try new things. One of my dreams is to write a book, and become a published author. I have been working hard on brainstorming ideas, and manifesting my dream to the universe.

I believe that everyone has a goal inside of them. All you need is to dig deep within yourself, and let the universe know what you would like for yourself.

Road Less Travelled – Lauren Alaina

I love this song so much! I figured it is the perfect song for 2021. It’s all about trusting yourself, and the universe by doing something you wouldn’t normally do. I sort of did this year. I quit my job because I didn’t feel comfortable with the whole coronavirus pandemic, so I decided to focus on my blog, and pursue thinking of a cool idea for my novels. In hope that one day I become a bestselling author, blogger. For the most part I feel proud of myself. And I feel very fortunate enough that my boyfriend is still working for us.

I hope that this is the year we trust ourselves and the universe even more. I know that it is scary, but I think things will get better. We just have to keep the faith that they will improve.

“If you trust your rebel heart, ride it into battle
Don’t be afraid, take the road less traveled
Wear out your boots and kick up the gravel
Don’t be afraid, take the road less traveled on”

-Lauren Alaina

2020 Review

In my opinion, December went by too fast, so it is difficult for me to pinpoint what exactly I have learned from December. So instead of writing a post about the things I have learned in December, I am going to talk about the things I have learned in 2020.

I have learned that I am capable to make changes in my life. I can leave things behind that don’t make me happy. For instance my job was not making me happy. I felt undervalued, and underappreciated. I knew I could something better in my life. Now I am focusing on the things that make me happy. Right now that is my blog. I still have a dream about becoming an author. I have been using this time to brainstorm ideas for a story, that can be turned into a novel, one day.

I have learned that memories are in our hearts, not in our things. It’s okay to let go of things. In fact, letting go of things, it can add value to someone else. This is known as the Subtraction, Addition. When we subtract our belongings, we have added more value of space that we can finally use for the things that add joy in our lives. I love helping others, so being able to part with some of my things, like sweaters, various shirts, I was able to help other people who may not have been able to afford these things.

In a pandemic, we weren’t missing the things we couldn’t buy, we were missing our families, friends, hugs. We were restricted from going over to other people’s houses. We missed out on birthdays, holidays, and other festivities.

From the pandemic, it also taught us that we should cherish every moment, and every person in our lives. We may never know when it is our last shared memory, moment with each other. We never know how much time is left, so it is important that we live our lives. We shouldn’t be wasting our valuable time on things that don’t necessarily matter. How many times have you told yourself, “I wished I had more time.”? Really look into yourself, and evaluate how you have been spending your time. Did you just binge watch a new show? All of those hours could have done something beneficial, like crossing something off your to-do list. Watching TV is cool, but it should be used as a reward for getting something done, not as something to do, to either pass the time, or avoid doing something.

I have also learned that it is important to make time for the things that matter. We should focus on the things like reading a book, exercising, and eating more healthy. These activities will add longevity, and keep your mind active.

I learned that is important to save up, and set some money aside for an emergency fund. Paying off debt helps, too. I have been making a budget on a monthly basis, which is really necessary to do, especially this year, and next year.

I have been having a lot of time to go after my dreams, which is something I take seriously. I can’t wait to spend more time making my dreams and goals come true.

As badly as 2020 was for us, I think we should also focus on the things we have learnt from 2020, and carry it forward to 2021.

Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 24

It’s Christmas Eve, so we should continue to spread as much love, and joy to others. This has been a difficult year for all of us, but we can help others feel better.

Be sure to thank an essential worker, or a teacher whenever you can. Whether it is a cashier at a grocery store, or a nurse, or a receptionist at a doctor’s office. There are so many essential workers to thank. I’m sure they must be tired, and stressed out, so the least we can do is say thank you.

Christmas Traditions in Iceland

The one good thing about this whole pandemic is that because of the lockdown, my boyfriend and I don’t have to travel anywhere. I am not trying to sound rude, but I am trying to look at the positives of not being able to see my family over Christmas.

I will definitely be doing this with my boyfriend tomorrow. I have decided that I am going to read Christmas Sisters by Sarah Morgan.

Another fun fact is that the majority of all books that gets published in Iceland happen near Christmas time, so people can buy their books to read on Christmas Eve.

Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 20

This is from Sunday.

I have always thought that it’s the best time to spread love and kindness than around Christmas time. Not everyone is fortunate enough to spend time with their families.

When someone asks you for help, say yes. Offer your time, and services. Perhaps your sibling can use a night off from the kids. You can offer to babysit your nieces and nephews. You can help them paint the kitchen, or any other projects that someone might need help with.

Although I know some places in the world may be in lockdown, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help someone when the lockdown gets lifted.

Pandemic

I can’t believe that we are near the end of 2020. 18 days left. I’ve been trying my hardest to make the best of the situation of what the year has thrown at us.

The whole Covid-19 pandemic has taught me valuable lessons such as, make time for what matters, don’t procrastinate, and always be grateful. Mind you I did have a grasp of these concepts but this reminded me to enforce these ideas even more.

One of the negatives from the viruses, is that they have been many families who have lost loved ones from the virus. My heart goes out to everyone who is hurting. Things might not get easier, but one thing for sure is that we do stronger. I am so thankful for the health workers and everyone who is at the front lines battling this disease.

Although I feel sad, because it seems to me, like a lot of people are divided over this virus. Mostly because there are people who think this is a hoax. And these people are calling the ones that do believe in this virus mean names. I don’t like how people have become divided on the topic. I wished that this would have brought us closer together (well, from six feet apart). We really do need to work together on this to help each other.

This virus has helped others focus on their mental health, which is something that we don’t always talk about enough. But it allowed others to seek help, they might not have if it weren’t for the virus. It allowed us to finally put our mental health as a priority.

It has given me more time to truly wonder what I want to do with my life. I always dreamt of being my own boss, by wanting to be a writer, and blogger. But I also want to be a psychologist to help people as well. I believe that we all have the power to make better choices.

One of the benefits from Covid-19, is that I am a bit scared of germs, so I have always been cautious of germs. I do feel a bit relieved that now I am not the only one that is taking precautions when it comes to germs. I felt like people have always made fun of me, behind my back, and sometimes even to my face. And now it is a nice situation where people are now more cautious. I just hate the circumstances of what held to these events. But there are measures in place to ensure we are all safe, or at least the safest we can be.

I have always been worried about germs since, as long as I can remember. It stemmed from childhood. When I move, I prefer to spend time cleaning my new space before I move my belongings in. When I moved in with my boyfriend, and his family, that was a big adjustment to me. I only felt comfortable washing my dishes. These habits do cause me to feel stress. I do have a lot of struggles adapting to new things and places. All we can do is learn to take things one day at a time.

Another benefit of the pandemic is that it really showed me what I really want to do in my life. I learned that I don’t want to work for someone else’s dream. I want to work on my dream. My dream is to be a writer, and a blogger. I know my chances are making it big, and famous are probably just one percent, but some other famous person had the same thought, and yet they ended up fulfilling their goals. As am I.

“With everything that has happened to you, you can feel sorry for yourself, or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

-Dr. Wayne Dyer

Ripple Effects of the Pandemic

I haven’t really vocalized much about the whole coronavirus, and the ripple effects it has caused us. But here is a snippet of my thoughts about it. I will be mentioning mental health crises, so that may be a trigger to others, but it does provide a powerful message to others.

The pandemic has thrown quite a wrench into 2020. It hasn’t just effected our economy, but it has dramatically effected our mental health. Between the lockdown, and having people in quarantine, it definitely has made people feel lonely. A lot of retirement homes were no longer allowing visitors in, our Grandparents and parents must be so lonely. So if you have family in retirement homes, and you can’t visit them, call them instead.

Not only has it made people feel lonely, but depressed, and unworthy.

But I was thinking about this other serious situation at the start of the the lockdowns was that people were going to stay in their houses more, and not have many places to go. I feared that many people were going to suffer in silence and continue to get abused. It would be easier for the people whom abused others to “get away” with it, since there wasn’t much happening in the world. I feel for every victim out there who has been suffering. I send you my love and healing powers, so you can get better.

I was reminded about this issue again, when Dr. Phil did an episode about survivors of abuse. I wasn’t able to watch that episode, but I did watch a video of what Dr. Phil was thinking about during the interview.

Something that Dr. Phil said was, “law enforcers only know what they are reported.” And added, “If you see something wrong, report it.”

He feels concerned that with all of the schools that closed right now, that they are children who are suffering. He feels that way because schools have mandatory reporters such as teachers, coaches who are legally responsible and required to report any suspicion of neglect and abuse. He wishes that it was safe for children to return to school, so children can be safer.

He suggests that if you see anything wrong, you should report it, because you never know who you are going to help. It can be anything from a bruise, to malnutrition. Dr. Phil recommends that you call the police, or you can report this to your country sheriff. You can remain anonymous, and just inform them that you live across the street, or next door to someone who is abusing someone else. You then request a wellness check to this said family.

They would make an unannounced visit, and see for themselves what is taking place in that household. We have to work together, in order to help others. Your call can just save someone’s life, and be their saving grace.

Day 118 of 192

This is Sunday’s item.

I feel really bad for keeping things for so long that I have not used. Before Covid-19 my Grandparents went to a lot of church sales, and garage sales, so she would buy a whole bunch of books and clothes that I would like. This explains why I used to have a lot of things. Plus three years I loved going clothes shopping.

Now I am finally starting to go through my possessions. I feel bad for holding on to this for so long. I feel that someone else could have enjoyed wearing this, instead of it being stashed away in a container for several years.

It’s a cute sweater, but it’s too small for me now.

But now I am freeing myself from this item, and I am super happy about it.