Day 52

I have been working on my Happiness Project, and I am still enforcing my January resolutions in February. For those that don’t know, a Happiness Project was inspired by Gretchen Rubin, about how she makes monthly resolutions in various aspects of her life. Each resolution is to help add happiness in her life. I was inspired to start my own Happiness Project. Feel free to get caught up if you haven’t already…

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Gretchen has written a book documenting her journey, tilted The Happiness Project. It was an inspirational book.

One of her rules that I have been working on, too, is if it takes 60 seconds or less, don’t procrastinate and don’t get that task done. Get it done now. The amount of energy and stress we have of constantly thinking about this task, and ways to avoid it, is actually more exhausting than doing the actual task at hand. I am slowly reminding my boyfriend about this rule, too. I think that it is a good rule to have and enforce in your house.

Today, I spent about 5 minutes doing various one minute chores, like cleaning a dirty mirror.

One minute tasks include hanging up your coat when you walk in the door, adding more toilet paper to the bathroom, putting your clothes in your hamper, instead of on the floor, and I know they are so many other tasks like this, that for some reason we keep pushing off.

Today, I will focus on getting tasks that no time at all now, instead of wasting time and energy waiting to schedule those tasks in my day, or do it another day. It is best to do things as they happen, instead of waiting to do them later. We can actually save energy, and be less stressed, as well.

Day 51

This lesson is from Saturday.

My boyfriend was making us dinner, and while I was waiting, I was going through my art and crafts bin. I had pulled that out, so I can take some crafts to do with my niece when I was babysitting her last week. I kept it because I wanted to do some crafts myself. I took out some of my colouring and my pencil crayons and started colouring. I picked out my Alice in Wonderland colouring book. I love that movie.

I love that colouring has an ability to calm me, and relax me. Colouring is so soothing. I will definitely be making more time to do crafts this week, especially since it’s almost my boyfriend’s birthday. I also have a lot of colouring books.

Today, I will focus on ways to relax and calm me. Which can be easier than one think. Colouring, and doing arts and crafts are a good way to relieve stress. I personally love to colour. Finding healthy ways to relieve and cope with stress is easier than one might think it is. We just need to think about it more creatively.

Day 50

This lesson is from Friday. I have been struggling to teach myself this, because more often enough, I feel like I can be super hard on myself. I know I shouldn’t be, but sometimes I just can’t help myself.

More often enough I feel like I get so busy, that I end up skipping on my blog posts for a day, or two. I feel bad because I know that I have a lot of fans, or so I like to think so. I feel like I am letting everyone down. So I try my best to come back on as soon as I can. This time I am trying not to be so hard on myself. We are all humans. And sometimes our priorities make us focus on different things, and that’s okay. And then before we know it, we either have ran out of time, or energy. But what is important is that we accept that we aren’t robots, and that it is okay to not be able to finish everything we were hoping to do. Which would help us if we don’t have a long to-do list, instead we should learn to only have a to-do list of three most important things. This will help us learn to not be so hard on ourselves.

Today, I will learn to not be so hard on myself. I would like to encourage everyone to not be so hard on themselves, as well. It is a hard world out there. So we should learn to be easy on ourselves, and to love ourselves, instead of having all of these negative feelings towards ourselves. We are in the middle of a pandemic, still, so all the more reason to go easy on yourself.

Day 49

Ideally it’s best to eat healthy every day. But sometimes it can be hard, and that’s okay. It can be fun to eat unhealthy, from time to time. You can have a lot of fun eating snacks, and foods that aren’t so healthy. We should learn to make food fun, and learn to enjoy it.

My boyfriend and I are had leftover soup for lunch, and for dinner we are going to have chicken fingers, and French fries. I know it isn’t the healthy things for myself. But as long as you don’t overdo your healthy foods, it can a lot of fun.

Everyone should have a day where they don’t have to be worry about eating healthy, or making sure they are doing something they normally do. We need to learn to not be so hard on ourselves when it comes to food. Learn to have fun with your food.

Today, I will learn to have a good relationship with my food. I will learn to give myself a cheat day when I can eat unhealthy foods. It’s important for me to understand that I can have a healthy relationship with food.

Day 48

I have learnt throughout my life that life is stressful. But there are things that we can do in order to make life less stressful, which is why yesterday I spent the day having a marathon of my favourite show. It was just so much fun to curl up in my blankets and drink hot chocolate throughout the day. I also spent some time finishing my book, and making a delicious beef soup.

I have been feeling busy and a bit stressed as of lately, so I needed some me time to unwind. I just focused on things that make me happy. I think it is important that we all take a day off, to truly focus on ourselves. A day where we can forget our problems, and forget about how imperfect the world is. One way to make sure that you always have a Me Day once week, at least, if you can. An easy way to do this is to schedule it like you would with a doctor’s appointment.

Today, I will focus on taking a Me Day. It’s important to take some time to focus on ourselves. I will remind myself that it isn’t selfish to focus on myself. In fact it is necessary to focus on ourselves. It is important to reinvent ourselves. Focus on what makes you, you. There are several ways you can focus on yourself, watch your show, make yourself a cup of tea, eat your favourite foods, stuff like that. Do whatever makes you happy.

Day 47

So my original plan was to babysit my niece since my sister works today. But my sister’s boyfriend checked on the road conditions, and realized that they were bad. He made the executive decision to stay home from work, since it snowed a lot overnight! I wasn’t needed to babysit my niece since she was going to spend the day with her dad today. My boyfriend also had the day off, too.

So we got to spend an extra day together, since he was off yesterday, as well. I was so excited! We got to relax today, we watched Tarzan, I haven’t seen that movie in so long. And I swept, and washed the floor, since I don’t normally get to do it today. So that was a good feeling to get that done. It was a great day to relax, and make time for getting small errands done around the house, too. I also got to make some time to read some books. I love snow days.

Today, I will use days off, or snow days, depending on where you live, as a day for fun, but also for a day that I can accomplish my chores, and errands around the house. It is important to dedicate some time for chores, but it’s also important to spend time having fun as a reward.

Day 46

It feels amazing to be all caught up with everything, especially with my blog posts. I am finally on Monday’s posts. Thank you for your love and support. I really appreciate all of the support.

Something that I have learned throughout my life is that you can’t change people. Especially if they are one of those people who see no problem with their behaviours. I have been friends with an alcoholic, and I tried my best to help him, I didn’t really know to help this person. But I have gone to support groups about it. And something I have learned is that we can’t change people. It’s okay, that we can’t change people, but it is important to be supportive for when they are ready to make changes in their lives.

Today, I will learn and accept that I can’t change the people around me, but I can change the people around me. But what I can be is supportive to this person. When they are ready to make changes in their lives, we can be there to support them.

Day 45

I hope everyone had an enjoyable Valentine’s Day. I had a decent day, despite the fight before Valentine’s Day. Things got better between my boyfriend and I.

It’s important that we continue to show each other love and respect, not just because a holiday tells us to, but because that is what we feel in our hearts. Remember to show love to those that we care about the most. Some ways that we can demonstrate our love to others is by writing a letter, making dinner, reading that person a story, telling them a joke. There are so many ways where you don’t have to spend money to show your appreciation to others. It’s also part of my February resolutions of my Happiness Project, to show and give tokens of love.

Let’s not wait around for a holiday to tell each other how much we adore them. We can do that any day, and we don’t have to spend a fortune either.

Today, I will make a promise to express love and appreciation to the ones I love, no matter what. It doesn’t have to be some extravagant expensive gesture either.

Day 44

I know that this weekend is supposed to be filled with love, and happiness. But sometimes things don’t go as planned. Which can sometimes be okay.

My boyfriend and I spent the Saturday before Valentine’s Day fighting. It was a long fight, and I feel sad that it happened on Valentine’s Day weekend. But from what I have learnt, is that it is okay to be angry. But what isn’t okay is how you respond to your anger. You shouldn’t insult another person, but it is necessary to have a meaningful heart to heart conversations about why and how you feel unhappy. Thinking of solutions of how things can get better, is ideal. Although you don’t have to think solutions right away. Solutions will come to you when you need them to.

As of right now, things are better between us, but I am sad that we wasted a day fighting with each other.

Today, I will learn to accept that it is okay to be angry, but it isn’t okay to express my feelings of angry in hurtful ways. I can have heart to heart conversations with the person you are conflict with. It is necessary to come up with solutions in order to prevent these situations from happening again. Whenever I speak from the heart, I will be mindful of who I am talking, and how my words may come across as hurtful.

Day 43

Learn the importance of saving up money, especially during these times of uncertainty. My boyfriend and I have cut down on a lot of expenses already. For example, we no longer eat any take-out, even though it’s nice to get a delivery — no cooking, and no dishes. But it has been fun to make our own food. We have decided that it is good when we don’t get any take-out, or buy much of anything for our selves, like new books, or tea, or anything else.

This way, we know that we have enough money to pay for our bills, and debts. It is a great feeling to cut back on these expenses. We are also trying to save up for the future. It is fun to think about what we can do with the money we are saving up. Some time we would love to get away for a week, or two. We would love to travel to Bali, and Italy. Although because I never been on an air plane before, I would like to start by travelling to Europe first since it’s similar to where I currently live right now, and it’s a shorter flight compared to Bali. I wouldn’t want my first plane ride to be long and stressful.

We love fantasizing what we would like to do with the money, but for now we are just building our savings. We aren’t going to be travelling until it seems safer for us to do. But for now, it feels good knowing that there is extra money in our accounts, just in case anything happens.

Today, I will try my best to cut back on one expenses, so I can build and work on saving money for my future. Having money saved up, will me feel more relaxed with the uncertainty of the future.