Day 47

So my original plan was to babysit my niece since my sister works today. But my sister’s boyfriend checked on the road conditions, and realized that they were bad. He made the executive decision to stay home from work, since it snowed a lot overnight! I wasn’t needed to babysit my niece since she was going to spend the day with her dad today. My boyfriend also had the day off, too.

So we got to spend an extra day together, since he was off yesterday, as well. I was so excited! We got to relax today, we watched Tarzan, I haven’t seen that movie in so long. And I swept, and washed the floor, since I don’t normally get to do it today. So that was a good feeling to get that done. It was a great day to relax, and make time for getting small errands done around the house, too. I also got to make some time to read some books. I love snow days.

Today, I will use days off, or snow days, depending on where you live, as a day for fun, but also for a day that I can accomplish my chores, and errands around the house. It is important to dedicate some time for chores, but it’s also important to spend time having fun as a reward.

Day 46

It feels amazing to be all caught up with everything, especially with my blog posts. I am finally on Monday’s posts. Thank you for your love and support. I really appreciate all of the support.

Something that I have learned throughout my life is that you can’t change people. Especially if they are one of those people who see no problem with their behaviours. I have been friends with an alcoholic, and I tried my best to help him, I didn’t really know to help this person. But I have gone to support groups about it. And something I have learned is that we can’t change people. It’s okay, that we can’t change people, but it is important to be supportive for when they are ready to make changes in their lives.

Today, I will learn and accept that I can’t change the people around me, but I can change the people around me. But what I can be is supportive to this person. When they are ready to make changes in their lives, we can be there to support them.

Day 45

I hope everyone had an enjoyable Valentine’s Day. I had a decent day, despite the fight before Valentine’s Day. Things got better between my boyfriend and I.

It’s important that we continue to show each other love and respect, not just because a holiday tells us to, but because that is what we feel in our hearts. Remember to show love to those that we care about the most. Some ways that we can demonstrate our love to others is by writing a letter, making dinner, reading that person a story, telling them a joke. There are so many ways where you don’t have to spend money to show your appreciation to others. It’s also part of my February resolutions of my Happiness Project, to show and give tokens of love.

Let’s not wait around for a holiday to tell each other how much we adore them. We can do that any day, and we don’t have to spend a fortune either.

Today, I will make a promise to express love and appreciation to the ones I love, no matter what. It doesn’t have to be some extravagant expensive gesture either.

Day 44

I know that this weekend is supposed to be filled with love, and happiness. But sometimes things don’t go as planned. Which can sometimes be okay.

My boyfriend and I spent the Saturday before Valentine’s Day fighting. It was a long fight, and I feel sad that it happened on Valentine’s Day weekend. But from what I have learnt, is that it is okay to be angry. But what isn’t okay is how you respond to your anger. You shouldn’t insult another person, but it is necessary to have a meaningful heart to heart conversations about why and how you feel unhappy. Thinking of solutions of how things can get better, is ideal. Although you don’t have to think solutions right away. Solutions will come to you when you need them to.

As of right now, things are better between us, but I am sad that we wasted a day fighting with each other.

Today, I will learn to accept that it is okay to be angry, but it isn’t okay to express my feelings of angry in hurtful ways. I can have heart to heart conversations with the person you are conflict with. It is necessary to come up with solutions in order to prevent these situations from happening again. Whenever I speak from the heart, I will be mindful of who I am talking, and how my words may come across as hurtful.

Day 43

Learn the importance of saving up money, especially during these times of uncertainty. My boyfriend and I have cut down on a lot of expenses already. For example, we no longer eat any take-out, even though it’s nice to get a delivery — no cooking, and no dishes. But it has been fun to make our own food. We have decided that it is good when we don’t get any take-out, or buy much of anything for our selves, like new books, or tea, or anything else.

This way, we know that we have enough money to pay for our bills, and debts. It is a great feeling to cut back on these expenses. We are also trying to save up for the future. It is fun to think about what we can do with the money we are saving up. Some time we would love to get away for a week, or two. We would love to travel to Bali, and Italy. Although because I never been on an air plane before, I would like to start by travelling to Europe first since it’s similar to where I currently live right now, and it’s a shorter flight compared to Bali. I wouldn’t want my first plane ride to be long and stressful.

We love fantasizing what we would like to do with the money, but for now we are just building our savings. We aren’t going to be travelling until it seems safer for us to do. But for now, it feels good knowing that there is extra money in our accounts, just in case anything happens.

Today, I will try my best to cut back on one expenses, so I can build and work on saving money for my future. Having money saved up, will me feel more relaxed with the uncertainty of the future.

Day 42

I got to babysit my niece for an extra day last week. She normally sees her grandparents but they were busy that day, so I got to watch her. The day before I babysat, I was thinking of making this cute art and craft for my sister and her boyfriend as a Valentine’s Day present. My niece is almost 2 years old, so I had a few craft ideas that she could do.

I decided that I can try to trace her hands to make a heart, and then I traced her feet to make another heart. I put her show on, and I put her in her chair. It turned out nice, despite that I didn’t get it into heart shapes. I let her give it to my sister. My sister thought that was super cute, she loved it!

Something that Gretchen Rubin reminded me to do was, “Don’t let perfection be the enemy of the good” in her book, The Happiness Project. It means that you can’t let yourselves get so caught up with perfection, that everything around you loses its beauty. You just got to remind yourself that you did your best.

I like to think that her craft was beautifully done. But there are other times where I have to remind myself that it’s okay for things to be messy, like how she loves to keep her toys all sprawled throughout the living room. Or how I sometimes get bothered that her pants are crocked. It’s small things like this. I am trying hard to look pass this. I’m not a mom, so it may or may not take me longer to get over this. I know there might be some people saying that I will miss the mess when she is older.

Today, I am reminded that I must look pass the imperfections, and see that the world can be a beautiful place. I will accept the fact that the world doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Don’t let yourself to miss out on things because you would rather see the imperfections, rather than the beauty of the imperfections.

Day 41

I got to watch my niece twice this week, which was really exciting! I like to follow the superstitions for the Lunar New Year, which is to not clean, especially not to sweep, as they believe you are “sweeping” away your luck. I knew that I was going to be watching her on the Thursday, and I knew I was going to stay at my sister’s late. So I made sure on the Wednesday that my house was relatively clean. I cleaned my bathroom, and kitchen, and then tidied my room. I was all ready for the Lunar New Year!

I spent the whole day on Wednesday freshening up my place. What helped was that I have a chore/cleaning schedule already in placed. Having a cleaning schedule is really useful, and helpful. I find it so much easier to set aside 15-20 minutes a day, then it is setting aside four hours in one day. I feel like it’s less stressful, as well.

Today, I will try to eliminate stress by organizing and planning my chores every day, instead of finding one day throughout the week to do all of my chores. I can now use the day that I would spend my time cleaning, as a day of rest instead.

Day 40

This lesson is from Tuesday.

For those who are new to my blog, I like to write about a lesson and an affirmation that I either learned that day, or sometime ago throughout my life. I hope my wisdom helps inspire others.

I got the pleasure to baby sit my niece on Tuesday. I love that I get to hang out with her. It’s currently our winter right now, so I am able to take her outside and let her play in the snow. She loves sledding. I make sure she is all bundled up since it has been really cold over here. It sort of reminds me in the fall time, that even though it may look nice out, I should still bring a sweater with me, just in case. In the winter time, I like to bundle up, too. But it just brought back a memory of the times where I felt like I didn’t need to bring a sweater, and in fact, I actually did.

Today, I will for sure bundle up to ensure that I stay warm and cozy, no matter how nice the weather may be. It’s best to be warm, and cozy, than cold, and sorry.

Day 39

On Monday, since my boyfriend had the day off, we spent the day catching up, and getting on better terms with one and another. Since I had finished one of my library books called, Bridge to Terabithia, I thought it would be cool to re-watch it. I haven’t watched it since seventh grade. I love the book, and movie. More so on that later.

I find it a lot of fun to watch something I haven’t seen in awhile, it definitely brings back a lot of memories. I love re-watching Disney movies, I have so many favourites.

My boyfriend enjoyed watching this movie a lot. He hasn’t seen it, so it was a fun way to spend the day. We had a homemade bacon poutine for the movie.

Today, I will spend the day re-watching a movie that I haven’t seen in awhile. This helps remind us of happier times, and memories.

Day 38

Day 38 was from Sunday.

My boyfriend and I were having a lot of disagreements throughout the day. I think to think that perhaps the game brought us a tad closer together throughout the day. We were still mad a bit on Monday (the next day). Things got a bit better throughout as the week went by.

Something that also brought us together was that I tried this new recipe — steak poutine! For those who don’t know, a poutine is French fries served with melted cheese, and gravy. It’s one of our favourite things to order out since we have cut back in ordering take out, in order to save up, and pay down our debts. I was just planning on making a steak dinner, and a poutine on the side. But I decided to combine the two sides together. It was a delicious meal, perfect for the BIG game!

Trying out new recipes are a lot of fun, if not necessary to spice out your weekly rotations.

Today, I will try to find new recipes to cook. New foods will add a bit of happiness throughout the day. Having different meals, can bring you closer with the people you have it with, or at least that worked out for my boyfriend and myself.