Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 4

I thought instead of going into debt trying to show your loved ones how much you love them. We should learn to give back to others instead. A good portion of these challenges, are free.

For today’s mission, I am going to ask you to donate a Christmas present. I know there used to be many Toy Drives so all children can still receive presents on Christmas. I don’t know what the restrictions of the coronavirus everyone is in, so you might have to make adjustments to this challenge. But you can donate a small present to your neighbours, or to a child’s teacher. Or if you are crafty, you make a present, instead of buying something.

Dance it Out!

It’s another edition of Feel Good Fridays. I actually used to do this, before I saw it on Grey’s Anatomy. It’s called “Dance it Out!”. Whenever you are stressed, it’s best to dance away your stresses. When in doubt, dance it out.

I love dancing to my favourite music, I find that I always feel better.

So, play your favourite tunes, and create your mini dancing party. Dancing makes you brave.

Actions Speak For Themselves

As much as I wish, I wish I could only see the good in the world, but unfortunately that isn’t the whole truth. I have seen the not so good parts of the world, too. I wish I haven’t.

Some people make foolish choices, people lie, others backstab people close to them. Lovers who find each other, only to realize their timing is off. People who miss opportunities.

Yes, people make mistakes all the time. That’s sometimes the only way we learn, is through trial and error.

It’s how you handle your mistakes that is important. How you heal the ones you hurt and how you fix things that are broken. These are all important things to consider and to think about. You should be having a conversation after an argument to discuss next steps, and what happens next.

I have allowed other people, who I thought were close to me, hurt me, more than once. I am too kind of a person to push someone away despite them hurting me.

“If someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time.”

-Maya Angelou

One of Oprah’s life lesson she has learnt from Maya Angelou is that once someone shows you their “dark side”, you should know they are showing you how they truly are to you. What I like about this quote is that you can’t really blame the other person for hurting you, because they have already showed you who they are. Sometimes people want to see the good in others, but sometimes, it’s not always there. It’s not okay to allow someone to hurt you or disappoint you over, and over again. That isn’t healthy, that’s the definition of insanity. Insanity is allowing the same thing to happen again, and again, but expecting a different outcome to occur. When you think things will get better, by doing nothing, you are lying to yourself.

People fail to realize that sometimes their tongue acts like a double edged sword. Once they release their words, they sometimes say something hurtful to their loved ones. I say double edged sword, because sometimes, not all the times, does that person feel bad for saying those words. Unfortunately that isn’t always the case.

People lie to you from time to time, not even thinking about it. These people think they didn’t do anything wrong. They walk around thinking that you’re naive or oblivious, and not aware that you can see right through them, and you know that they are hiding something from you. But their logic is, that if they don’t mention anything to you, then it doesn’t exist. They think that they aren’t lying, despite withholding the truth from you, or continuing to feed you white lies.

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”

-Mark Twain

I would rather be hurt with the truth once, instead of being sugarcoated, and have someone “protect” with a lie over, and over again.

I am not here to say mean stuff regarding other people, but it’s hurtful seeing people hurting the people they say they love. And I mean, they probably do, but you don’t go hurting the ones you love. That isn’t cool, nor acceptable at all.

“Don’t expect the person that hurt you to be the person who saves you.”

If someone has hurt you, and they never apologized for it, and they are no longer in your life. You just got to remove the feelings of hatred, or sadness from your heart. Those feelings are negative to have. Whenever you think of someone that has hurt you, forgive them, but don’t forget the lessons they have taught you. When you think of this person, send them forgiveness into the universe and good wishes to this person. Then let go with grace. Love can’t enter a heart that has hatred running through its veins.

“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.”

People should learn to treat other people better. They should do anything to see their loved ones happy, no matter what. The one who wipes away your tears, because you were crying from laughing too much, not because they made you sad. Someone who can’t wait to hear all about your day. Someone who makes you happy, someone who doesn’t like seeing you sad. Someone who wants you to succeed.

If you don’t have a person like this in your life, don’t feel sad, you’ll find this person. I like to think that everyone has a soulmate.

And for everyone who has had their heart broken, and never received an apology. I am so sorry that no one saw your value, but it’s their loss, because I’m sure whomever is reading this, is amazing.

Day 165 of 193

Hey everyone!

I am so grateful for all of the people I have helped throughout this difficult year. I hope if you have some things laying around your house, that you no longer use or wear, that you donate it to the people who are in need.

In this container I found this notebook that my Grandparents gave, but I already have a ton of journals already. So I’m just going to this aside for my niece. I think she would like it.

Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 3

Instead of buying each other materialized items, we can give each other kindness and love instead.

Today’s challenge is to buy a friend, or a colleague a coffee, or a tea. It can brighten up their day, and warm themselves at the same time. I think your friends will appreciate the gesture.

If you work from home, or no longer work right now, you can make a coffee or a tea for a person in your house. I made myself and my boyfriend a latte after dinner. I can’t wait!

Enjoy the day, and I hope everyone enjoys their day. 🙂

Thankful Thursdays #23

This is where I talk about all of my grateful moments throughout the week. I encourage everyone to do the same. If you don’t have the time or resources to think about you are thankful, you can still spend some time thinking about what you are thankful for.

Here is my list.

  1. Many of you may not know this, but a year ago today, I got hit by a car on my walk to work. I didn’t suffer any life-threatening injuries, not even a broken bone. I think about how lucky and how grateful I am for being able to not suffer from that accident.
  2. My roommate bought us buns and deli meats, so I made myself a delicious sandwich for lunch.
  3. I am grateful that I had the time to take a nap, since I woke up with a headache, but I’m feeling a bit better now.
  4. I got to watch a football game yesterday, which is pretty odd for the NFL to be on a Wednesday. Although I know there have been several games that have played on a Wednesday before.
  5. I am thankful for having motivation to make changes and better habits in my life. All in all I feel proud and happy for myself again.

I would love to know what you are thankful for.

This is something I have been working on and thinking about. It isn’t done yet, obviously. But I will keep everyone posted.

One Year Later…

A year ago, today, I was hit by a car walking to work. I haven’t even told many people in my family, I guess I just didn’t want them to worry about me. Not many of my family follows my blog, at least not yet anyway. I was extremely thankful and lucky that I didn’t die, or suffer any life threatening injuries from my accident. I only suffered bruises and a bit of swelling. Not even a broken bone. I think my Guardian Angel was my Great Aunt. I like to think that she was watching over me protecting me that day. I remember the last time, I had visited her, she called me her girl, and hugged me. I knew that I always held a special place in her heart.

If you would like to read the original story of my accident, although it may be a bit graphic for some readers. I tried my best not to be too graphic. You can read the original story here, https://threeyellowdaisies.ca/2020/05/29/second-chance/ The purpose of this post is to provide hope and wisdom to other people, and not so much of the story of the accident.

Now I spend my days trying to cram doing all the things that make me happy throughout my days, because we truly don’t know when our last day may be. I was able to start writing my blog again, five months after my accident. I first started this blog in May of 2015, and managed to write it for a year, and took a break, and nearly forgotten about it for four years. But here I am, back and better than ever. And here to stay.

I know that they are many people who lose their lives due to motor vehicle accidents every year. In Canada there were 1,922 people who died in 2018 from a motor vehicle traffic collision. (1) I am truly sorry for everyone who has lost a loved one from a car accident. My heart goes out to you all.

A year ago today, I am reminded that any one of us can die so suddenly, so let’s not waste a day, or even a second for holding a grudge, or hatred towards someone. Why waste a day, being anything, but happy? We should make every one of our days count for something. We should add joy and happiness in someone else’s day. The best part is that doesn’t take a lot of effort. When we make other people happy, it also makes us happy, too. It’s a win win situation. And sometimes people don’t get so lucky with having a second chance at life. So find something that makes you happy, and brings joy to your life. Life truly does go by pretty fast, faster than we think.

I hope everyone can use this tragedy as a reminder to go out and find your passion. Really start living your life. You don’t know what the future is going to bring you, so don’t let it pass you by.

A year later, I still feel pain from time to time in my right thigh where I got hit. I still get a bit anxious going out for a walk, especially at busy interactions, and busy roads. I have always been cautious crossing the street before my accident. And now, I’m even more cautious, if that’s even possible. I avoided having to do any obligations and errands for today, so I don’t have to go outside. It must sound a bit lame, but I just don’t have the strength to go out on the anniversary of my accident.

Getting hit by a car, really changed my life for the better. It gave me motivation to take over my life, again. I learned that I was too focused of living my life to other people’s standards, and not so much as to my standards. I was doing something that people wanted me to do. I even started studying accounting a few years ago, since people told me that I should be an accountant, because I was organized, had a good memory, and good with numbers. I learned that maybe, that’s what I’m not meant to do. And now I am slowly doing the things I want to do for myself. I found my true passions. In the fifth grade I wanted to be a writer, and right now I have been dedicating time to write. I want to add joy to people’s lives, by helping them see the good in themselves, and helping them realize that things do get better.

Throughout the year, other areas of my life have changed, my boyfriend and I no longer live with his family, but now we live with his friend and his family. I no longer work at that coffee shop. Not for reasons related to the accident. That’s just how life worked out for us. I couldn’t be more happy. I was working for someone else’s dreams, and not really have a lot of time to focus on my dreams, and what my passions are. Right now, I have been focusing on my blog, and writing some stories. That is what I am passionate about.

I see this day as a reminder to live my life, chase after my dreams, not try to appease what people want me to do, or they say to me when I’ve just been writing some ideas down. Even though the accident didn’t make much sense, like I always asked myself, why did that happen to me? Why did I lived? I really started questioning my purpose. I’m not working at the moment, but I have been using this time to work on what I am passionate about, which is writing. How thankful I am that I only ended up with bruises. Because I know, not everyone is as lucky. I am thankful that I still get to help others, and that I get to be here for my loved ones. The universe saw something greater in me, than I was capable of seeing in myself, and the universe didn’t want my story to end. This accident ignited a fire in me, that I should do something in my life. It reminds me to always find my purpose and happiness, and go in that direction, and not move backwards.

I hope that people can take away that their life doesn’t last forever, only their legacy does. It’s best not to waste your purpose by living someone else’s dreams. Go and chase your passion. Life is limited, so go out there and make something out of your life.

  1. https://tc.canada.ca/en/road-transportation/motor-vehicle-safety/canadian-motor-vehicle-traffic-collision-statistics-2018

Day 164 of 193

Hi everyone! I hope everyone is having a good day.

The item I am giving away is an orchid plant holder. A few years ago, my boyfriend had bought me an orchid, unfortunately the plant died a few months after he gave it to me. It was a really pretty shade of light pink, with dark pink.

My Grandma likes to plant, and garden, so I’m going to see if she could repurpose this jar.

Advent Calendar of Kindness 2020 Day 2

Instead of indulging with a calendar of chocolate, counting down to Christmas, I thought it would be a better way to celebrate with being kind to others, and this allows us to spread love to strangers, and people we care about.

Today’s Challenge is to let someone go in front of you in a line. I know people are visiting less stores these days. but if you are ever in line, let someone go in front of you. I tried to do this a few days ago when I went to the grocery store, but the lady said it was okay. I tried, but hopefully the next person I offer agrees. If they don’t, it’s not a big deal to me.

I try my best to spread love, and kindness to everyone I see, and talk to. I enjoy seeing people happy, and smile because of something I have done, and said. 🙂

This year, spread kindness, not germs.

WWW Wednesdays – December 2nd, 2020

This is a post where I talk all about books by answering the following questions…

  1. What have I finished reading?
  2. What am I currently reading?
  3. What will I be reading next?

I had a great week for reading. I was able to finish a lot of books. I was able to finish three books.

  1. What have I finished reading?

I really enjoyed reading this book, I have never read any of her books before. This book was amazing. It had a fast paced plot, which I really liked. All I kept on thinking about was the theme song from Pretty Little Liars. It is the perfect book for Spooktober.

My rating: 3.75 stars out of 5

And

This book is split up into 12 chapters, one for each month. I read a chapter on the first of every month. I have read this book for the past five years or so. Although I have been reading this book more cautiously this year. It’s about Gretchen’s research on happiness, how to find it, and monthly resolutions that help us find happiness. I really enjoyed this book.

My rating: 4 stars out of 5 stars

And

I fell in love with this book, the moment I picked it up. I always wanted to read it years ago, because my sister tried getting into the book. She kept on putting the book down, and picking it back up, but she kept on forgetting what happened. Her solution was to watch the movie. I watched the movie, and I thought it was really well done. I saw the movie several years ago, so I vaguely remember it. I prefer the book better, although I might watch this movie this weekend. Even though my sister found the beginning to be a bit slow, which it was, but it was still well written. I can’t recall if she finished reading the book, but it is really good. I would recommend this book to anyone.

It is about the story of a teenager who gets sent to different foster cares, and each house she is, faces different challenges, and teaches her various lessons about life, and self-growth. I recommend reading the book first, then watching the movie, but that’s just me.

My rating: 4.75 stars out of 5

2. What am I currently reading?

This one is a really long book, and at the end of the day, it’s hard to find motivation to read this with my boyfriend after a long day.

I cannot wait to start reading this book. It looks like a great spooky thriller. I haven’t started it yet, just been finishing up my errands around the house. Thrillers are my favourite books to read. I feel thinking about what is going to happen next. Most thrillers have exciting twists that you didn’t see coming.

3. What will I read next?

Since one of my goals for 2021 is save up more money, this book will definitely help me.